My DD is 8 and has no respect for anything. She is heavy handed with stuff, has no patience and doesn't listen when I ask her not to do something.
She has been told repeatedly not to open her window, she has to stand on her windowsill to do it and it's danergous. Despite being told she will do it over and over again. Last month she did it and slipped off the windowsill pulling down the curtain rail. I put a roller blind in instead and told her again to not touch the window. Today she managed to break the chord on the roller blind and then pull the actual blind off the roller. She said she did it whilst trying to open the blind but there is no way she could have caused that much damage unless she was standing on her window sill and pulling on it. Plus the fact her window was open was a bit of a giveway!
Today she also swung on her cupboard door and ripped it off the hinges despite being told countless times before that doors are for opening/closing and not for swinging on.
She has also drawn on the outside wall with chalk despite being told specifically not to about 3 minutes before she did it. She knows she is allowed to draw on the patio with the chalk but not the walls.
The list goes on and on. She breaks her toys, her brother's toys, her toy box, her fairy lights ....
I really don't know what to do. Do I replace the things like her blind and toybox? Do I fix the cupboard door? Or do I just leave it all as a consequence for her actions?
I don't think she does it as a deliberate (to be difficult or nasty) thing but it has to be deliberate to some extent because at 8 years old, she knows perfectly well what "don't touch _" means.
Are there any words of wisdom to try and get her to respect her things a little bit more?
I got really cross with her today and I feel a bit guilty but there's only so much I can take and I definitely cannot afford to keep replacing everything. I threatened to take the money out of her savings account to replace it and she started crying and saying she was sorry. I know she is sorry for breaking things but she still doesn't do what she's told. I feel like I am talking to a brick wall.