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need help with a very nocturnal baby

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jeckadeck · 18/03/2011 08:21

Can anyone give me some advice: I have a nearly 7 week old baby who basically naps sweetly until late afternoon and from then onwards just won't shut up until the small hours and either wakes up continually or doesn't actually sleep at all. She's not crying all the time, mainly just wants to talk, sing, chortle and generally make her presence felt. It's all very sweet but my husband and I can't eat/sleep together and I really want to begin to get into a nighttime routine. The baby books (Baby Whisperer, etc) talk darkly about babies having "switched day for night" and how you should try to coax them back into being awake in the day but with few specifics and nothing I do seems to have any effect: I keep her, as far as possible, to a routine, I've tried moving her around, changing her repeatedly, playing with her, turning TV/radio up loudly but when she wants to sleep none of it has any effect. How do you reset a baby's body clock? Also am I just worrying too much? some of my friends think I just need to chill out about it and others think I need to toughen up and enforce the routine. Any ideas?

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jugofwildflowers · 18/03/2011 10:56

Oh golly, I have 4 dc and if I didn't get my sleep I'd be a total wreck!

This is what worked best for me. I slept with mine until they were 6 months old so that if they needed a feed they'd just be able to suckle contentedly without me needing to get up.

Also, the darkness and lack of eye contact, the snuggliness, warmth and comfort meant that both baby and me were blissfully contented. It was also hugely reassuring to hear them breathing and to give them a cuddle or kiss whenever I felt like it.

Sleeping with babies is what is practised in nearly every culture throughout the history of mankind and it worked well for us.

We both used to have great sleeps and even if we started off the night chuckling at each other and playing peekaboo etc, by closing my eyes my baby would do the same. Sometimes I would pretend to doze off and every time my baby would relax next to me, watch me closely and then doze off given the cue by me!

None of my babies ever cried at night or had sleepless nights even when ill at as they were conforted knowing I was there.

By 6 months they had established sleep patterns and no longer needed a night feed and were able to drop off themselves so I moved them into their own cot/ room.

The key for us was to 'fill up the tank before bed' sometimes I found I didn't have enough breast milk so I would supplement with a bottle for the last feed.

Mine did not wake in the night after 6 months unless ill. We also found by having a low bed (Ikea ones are ideal)and cutting short the time they were in a cot, they were then able to come in to our bed if they needed to and just snuggle right in and not disturb us.

We invested in a superking size bed as we sometimes get 7am visitors who like to have a cuddle before school!

jeckadeck · 18/03/2011 11:32

Sounds sensible and I have her sleeping with me at the moment although thinking of moving her to a moses basket soon, but she's still very active at night. It's not normally crying, more just conversation -- she wants to talk to someone and its lovely but it goes on for hours :) She was very active at night when in the womb and I think her body clock is naturally set that way. Also it doesn't help that dad gets back from work at about 6 and naturally needs to eat and wind down, all of which tend to stimulate her. But there's not much I can do about that. I'm just wondering if anyone has any particular techniques to help a baby reset its clock.

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