Where can i be refered to for childs anger?

[sarahbeth2]

Please dont tell me oh yes my child has tantrums etc etc. This is different and I am concerned. I have tried everything.
Whats my next step, can i be referred somewhere?

Thanks

It might be worth seing if your HV could refer you for parenting classes.
There may be approaches that you havent tried yet, and if you have already tried everything and your way of dealing with this cant be improved then that would give you good grounds to go back to the GP.

Hi again,
I think if you can get a break, even for a few hours you may find it a real help. Could you get her into a pre-school- if she's 3 she should qualify for free hours- from next term anyway? This could be a bit of a tester re her behaviour- can she behave there? If not then I should think the pre-school will support you in getting more specialist help.

Without wanting to demean your post a lot of kids this age are a real challenge, and it's tough on the primary carer (you!). I found pre-school a real help in a few hours off!! Also, hang in there, they do get better- by 4 it's easier and then 5 another milestone.

Good luck, do you have Mums with 3 year olds to off load with? Found this a real help too, to know it was pretty normal if not desirable!

Hello,

Have done the wishes thing and i went to parenting classes too, they were all very much saying you are already doing what we would suggest.

I do have lots of friends with the same age but although their lo's do have tantrums they are not of this level so i feel a bit isolated. I know tantrums are normal and they are a challenge at this age but my goodness! ;)

I dont really need to ask anyone else for help as my husband / grandparents will have her and i do get a break its more what the hell can i do to help this situation?

Sounds like nothing really except log it all again and hope for the best. Its her emotions she cant deal with as she gets so angry which is fine but really cant handle it but we have done all then how do you feel stuff with her so am at a loss as to what to do next.

We have had similar probs with DS (now 4).

I went to see the friendliest GP in our Surgery to discuss things, and she referred us to the Community Paediatrician team. We've only had one appointment so far with them, but was really useful.

I've endorsed this before... I really think The Explosive Child is worth a look, OP. It's all about coping strategies and prevention. Maybe the most truly supportive parenting books I've ever read.

Thank you so much, i will check out this book. I just feel no one is taking me seriously at all.

I really feel your pain! I have been in a similar situation with my now almost 6 yr old. Having had concerns dismissed by Health Professionals and family is very frustrating. I also felt that my parenting was very much being judged. I was worried from about the age of 3 with my DS. My advice to you is if you are genuinely concerned and sure it is not just a blip go to your GP and make a request to be referred to the Child Development Specialist. (I actually rang the surgery and was very direct and assertive). Keep strong and get respite when ever possible. Having a bit of time out yourself is great for seeing things a little clearer I have found.

Thanks, i am going to keep a diary again and then review it. Thanks for the post as its appreciated as i do feel alone in this. Out of interest did your situation reslove itself?