Obsessive behaviour in 3 yr old DS

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OK so I know preschoolers are a bit OCD but my son seems to have taken this to a whole new level recently.
He is obsessed with toys being placed in the "correct" way - particularly his little sisters toys - which means they can't be played with. He gets really quite upset when, for example, a spinning toy spins and ends up facing a different way.
He's also started to get very upset when my DD kisses me, or him, saying that he doesn't want us to get wet. Again this seems to lead to real upset rather than just plain naughtiness.
There have also been a few problems like this at preschool and he sometimes seems to genuinely antagonise other children
So is this normal? Do I wait it out or try and encourage less rigidity in this thinking, and how?

My DS was/is similar and he's now 6. His quirks are becoming more prominent now and having registered with OCDUK, I feel much better having chatted to others with similar kids.

I was thinking about having DS assessed but people on the forum said that 6 was still quite young to know if it was normal behaviour or something moer, although he defo has certain OCD tendencies such as not having people kiss him, touch his food plate, not liking how uncomfortable his socks feel in his shoes etc.

Perhaps wait and see how he is once he starts in reception and if it gets worse, then have him assessed.

Everyone will tell you it's just what toddlers do, but there are give aways to show it's more than just normal toddler behaviour. My parents aren't sure whether he's just being naughty but they don't know him like I do so I've given up trying to explain.

To help support him, I find it best to try and make it easy for him so don't let others touch his plate/food/ let him choose his won socks etc.

Thanks for the ideas. I have been considering chatting to HV about it but I fear I have already been very PFB about him and she may well have got the impression i'm a bit of a paranoid mum.

It's very difficult though. I'm quite prepared to not let others touch is plate, mat etc, but I'm not prepared to stop kissing my DD just because he demands it.

I'm 'okay' to kiss him - it's just other people he hates kissing (we don't insist he kisses relatives etc!). He does wipe mine off though .

If it's not really encraoching on your everyday life, then if I were you, I'd wait a while and perhaps just ask at preschool if theyv'e noticed him having any OCD type behaviour.