2 Yr old ds doesnt like it when i eat

[RuthC85]

i have 3 kids dd age 3 1/2 ds1 age 2 and ds2 aged 5 months. The last 2 weeks ds1 has taken a dislike to me eating he either takes all the food off my plate or screams so loudly it upsets dd and ds2 so i then give up and dont bother eating. I thought at first it was a phase but its been going on 2wks now and im soooooo hungry also concerned as im still ebf my youngest iv never come across this before hes fine with other people eating just not me. not sure how to handle it would be grateful of any advice

Stop him taking food off your plate and send him out of the room if he screams.

What Rita said.

Agree. Remove him from the table (I assume you're all eating together?)

it's a control thing. You'll have to grit your teeth and start showing him it's not allowed. Probably lots of screaming but in the long run, worth it. Remember who's teh adult - nobody in teh family shouldb e going hungry because of a toddler's temper

Yes we like to eat meals as a family i have tried stopping him taking food from my plate but as hes eating it and it mean him and dd are eating a healthy meal and are quiet ( with 3 kids there isnt much quiet lol) i give in and let him do it dh on the other hand is not impressed by it and has given time outs removed him from the room if he screams etc but i cant eat if im stressed and find it distressing when 1 of my kids r upset (my own problem i know) so cant eat anyway.

Sorry but you really need to nip this in the bud now. He may start to see DH as the first in command, then HIMSELF, then you, and this lack of respect could slide into other areas. It will also be confusing and upsetting to him if he thinks he can order you about. He needs you to show him what is acceptable and also that he does NOT affect your appetite when causing a scene (not easy when it's gone cold after dealing with the scene I know!). Be strong, boundaries are even better for him than healthy food. Glad you've got your DH's support, work with him

You really need to follow your DH's lead on this, be a united front. The sooner you sort it out the sooner you can get back to calm, relaxed meals. You giving in to the tantrums is just dragging this out and making it worse.

Thanks I know i am too soft on him but hes such a good little boy in lots of other ways i agree tho if i let it continue that this behaviour will spill in to other areas also dont want his brother and sister to start it either will perservere with removing him from the situation and see how it goes thanks 4 the advice peeps :)

Good luck :)

And obviously it's important he doesn't get extra attention from this, everything seems to work so much quicker following the idea of ignoring - clearly you can't actually ignore this but the removal needs to be of the strong silent type, with the reason for it explained clearly and calmly before and after. Good luck, I'm sure he is lovely x