my ds 23 months doesnt listen to me

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my son is 23months, he doesnt like to listen to me, or eat propre food, he likes chicken nugget a lot and munch bunch, but nothing else, no veg, i tried everyhting with him, he will throw the food on the floor and ask for chicken nugget,milkshake, i want him to eat veg, salad, specially, i cook every day different things, he also, want everything his way, or he will start crying and throwing himself on the floor, sometimes he drive me made, i am a childcare worker, i dont have any problem with other children at all, i was thinking when i will have mine it will be easy, as i am very strict, but he is my first one, and really, finding it hard, i am giving him all my time, taking him out, playing with him, he even start to choose his clothes to wear if we going out.oh yes, he does listen to his dad, and do what ever he ask him to but not me.

Toddlers go through their phases...I think 20-24 mo is a prime time for tantrums-it was definitely with my two.

Just don't give in- don't let him have the nuggets etc, unless you're serving them anyway. He'll cry and scream, but he'll get the message eventually. And he won't starve if he doesn't eat his dinner for a few days.

DD ate everything when a baby, then around 18-20 mo went through a refusal phase- almost no veg etc- now at 25 mo she's back to eating most things. If she didn't want what was served, she got a yoghurt as usual and bf.

She never starved and would just have a bigger breakfast next day.

Don't let him see that you're stressing over his food intake-it'll just make him want to play this card more iyswim.

It'll get better

oh, thanks for this advices, i will take them into consideration for sure. hope he will start to change, as i will find it hard in the future because i am 5 moths pregnant and find it hard to do with him, while i am tired, i think he know that now.

can you stop buying nuggets, milk shake and yogurt in for a week just to break the cycle. let him tantrum but just walk away/stay calm and let him know if he is hungry he can have the normal family meal. He won't starve if he misses an few meals. If he is really hungry he will eat your normal food.

When I was pregnant my daughter became much more difficult. I was less available because I was exhausted. She noticed that and was resistent. Things didn't improve much post birth but they didn't worsen so in addition to following the great advice, it may help to think of it as a transition to something major and hard that will get much easier.

Yep, get tough and get some wine.
I find my children are much better in a childcare environment too - something about fitting into the group? They even eat properly which would be considered a minor miracle at home.
Healthy snacks seem to work better here than proper meals, especially if my children are initially told they can't have any because it's not for them. Then I tell them they can have a little if they do X and then I let them eat the carrot sticks they would have refused if I had straight-up offered them.

I think it is really common for people who have worked with children to get a shock when they have their own and discover it is not as easy as they expected. Your relationship with your own children is emotional and completely different to a professional relationship. It sounds like your ds is acting in a completely normal way for a toddler to act with his mother - so don't compare him to the charges you had before.