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help me to decide on the righ punishment/lesson

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DelGirl · 11/03/2011 17:24

I'll try and keep it brief.

OK, have just this last week moved to a new village (we have previously spent a few weeks here a couple of years ago so dd knows the place)

dd will be 6 in April. We were outside and she was playing with some other children in the square. We are high up and around the square is a wall, the drop down to the road below is, I would say
probably 20ft, maybe more??

I have given her the rules that she is not to lean over the wall just a couple of days ago before we started to go there.

Anyway, to get to the point, she was a fair distance from me and not threw exactly, just pushed a rock over the wall. As I saw her do it I told her not to but it was too late by then. Thank god there was no-one underneath. I took her down immediately and told her that her stupid behaviour could have killed someone, she was obviously upset. I have told her that she will not be allowed in the square for a week, I am also going to stop any treats.

I am more than aware that this could have been catastrophic (sp) thankfully it wasn't. And, whilst I am not excusing dd's behaviour in any way, I do wonder whether at her age she just didn't realise the seriousness of her actions??? I've wondered whether to post or not but do feel that the punishment needs to fit and this can never be repeated so she must realise that.

Any thoughts please? If I don't come back to the thread today it's because my internet time is up. tia

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DelGirl · 11/03/2011 17:35

anyone??

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IondonIady · 11/03/2011 17:40

My immediate reaction is I think your punishment fits the crime. She must understand that her actions could have had serious consequences.
Sorry to be brief but i know you want a quick response.

DelGirl · 11/03/2011 17:43

thank you, do you think it is enough? I know a week will be a long time for her so hopefully it will get the message through??

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TheVisitor · 11/03/2011 17:50

A week is plenty. I would agree that she wouldn't realise how serious it could be. She would have just been thinking "will the rock smash on the floor if I push it off?" Kids that age don't understand the consequences or have the foresight to realise that someone could have been hurt. When you do allow her out to play again, just reiterate that she's never to throw anything over the wall.

DelGirl · 11/03/2011 17:57

thank you, that has really helped. I just hope it sinks in

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