/Having friends to play after school

codswallop · 2003-09-15T15:10:46+00:00

why does ds1 then never play with them and ds2 entertains tham till 5 mins before the parent comes to pick them up?!!

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scoobysnax · 15/09/2003 16:16

because ds1 is wanting to play with YOUR friends (you should be playing with dh's)
Easy.

CountessDracula · 15/09/2003 16:18

Is this continued from another thread? Don't understand the Q.

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codswallop · 15/09/2003 16:20

why does ds 1 never play with people he invites home after school

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janh · 15/09/2003 18:33

Because the idea of having someone to play is more fun than the reality?

I can vaguely remember this happening. Quite often instead of playing they would just veg in front of a video and I would hiss "you can watch a video any time, you have someone here, play with them!" And then they would fall out and I would put the video on again.

YOur DS2 sounds like good value - you should rent him out!

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codswallop · 15/09/2003 18:34

yes he has the rols as deputy entertainer. Hes only 3 but all ds1s pasl love him!!

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mrsforgetful · 16/09/2003 00:25

what i find always happens is that the 'invited' friend arrives and starts to play with everything in site and usually my 3 boys compete for his attention!!

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codswallop · 16/09/2003 18:26

or inviteee plays alone whilst the brothers find each other highly entertaining.

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KMS · 16/09/2003 22:33

this sounds SO familiar! My DS2 (3 1/2) always seems to end up playing with DS1's friends while ds1 has a strop or plays his playstation. with me shouting he can play that anytime! I think, as janh so rightly said, the reality is not as fun as they thought and they are tired after school.
pleased to hear it's not just in my house!

mrsforgetful · 16/09/2003 23:59

KMS....the other day ds1 had a friend round -to play the playstation! the friend went in the front room and started playing with brio etc- ds1 comes down and gets cross...and cannot understand why he isn't playing the playstation!
other frequent occurence is that when kids play together they seem to have difficulty 'ending' and going home!!!!
and my greatest bug to bare is that my husband will 'almost' say yes to any kid who asks to come in...never checks with me or even our boys- it's very hard sending someone packing once my husbands took their shoes and coat off!!

mrsforgetful · 16/09/2003 23:59

KMS....the other day ds1 had a friend round -to play the playstation! the friend went in the front room and started playing with brio etc- ds1 comes down and gets cross...and cannot understand why he isn't playing the playstation!
other frequent occurence is that when kids play together they seem to have difficulty 'ending' and going home!!!!
and my greatest bug to bare is that my husband will 'almost' say yes to any kid who asks to come in...never checks with me or even our boys- it's very hard sending someone packing once my husbands took their shoes and coat off!!

sb34 · 17/09/2003 22:18

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easy · 18/09/2003 15:15

sb that's really funny. When I was little I was a really picky eater at home, but if I went to someone's house for tea I would eat just about anything. I remember thinking I didn't like one thing one day, but I sat politely and endured eating it, cos I wanted to be asked back another time.

suedonim · 19/09/2003 10:44

Dd plays okay with an invited friend but she constantly challenges me by asking to do things that she knows full well she isn't allowed to do, such crossing the road or going out of sight when outside etc. She thinks of about 50 different ways in which to phrase the question, and it drives me potty!

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codswallop · 19/09/2003 10:48

Or argues the toss with you! I have had that

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codswallop · 06/10/2003 15:53

Ok so ds2 had a friend over this morning and just stoofd there sayong " I want x to go home"
he is three. very embarassing.

Normally plays really well wiht ds1s cast offs after school...

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sunchowder · 06/10/2003 18:32

Coddy, this has happened to me too! I have been so desparate as to give the last kid a small broom and Itook my big broom and begged her to help me sweep the kitchen while my DD watched a video.....

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codswallop · 06/10/2003 18:55

guilt guilt. the worst thing here was that the mother was there...
They play much beter when the mother goes!

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sunchowder · 06/10/2003 19:04

Oh...didn't realize the Mom was theredidn't she say anything to her babe? (like work it out darling, Coddy and I will be in the kitchen talking sort of thing?) I don't knowI always used to give my DD a hug and ask her to tell me what was happening--she either needed to work it out with her friend, I could suggest a negotiation for her (maybe intervene a bit and suggest something new and positive to focus on or bring out a different toy/activity). After 15 or so minutes had passed, I would honestly just apologize and leave with my babe! Make another plan for another day when we are all "feeling" better! Don't feel guilty!!

JJ · 06/10/2003 21:23

Codwallop, did you like the mother? This has happened to me, but as I liked the mother, I tried to gloss over it, while not ignoring it. ("But Boy, you wanted her to come over, could you play tree house?" When that didn't work, I just got annoyed with him and made him play with her (which he liked, once he did it). (Excellent parenting, I know.) I think if I hadn't liked her, I would have left first chance.. well, maybe not, as they were at my house.