Please HELP!!

[shellmc]

Hello i havent been on here for quite some time since having DS.
He is now 21 months, and we are having problems.
The main problem is his sleeping, i know everyone and everychild goes through this and it can last a few years, but mine and DH concern is that he has starting having night terrors, well this is what the health visitor said it sounds like. Its awful and i hate seeing him go throught this, he has had 4 now in past 3 months, another thing is he wakens evrynight around 3-4 times kicking his legs around and rubbing them as if they are sore???
We have tried rubbing them to try and ease them.
We are also going through the beginning of his tantrums!! Started at the weekend, throwing himself on the floor0, hitting d0orrs and hitting himself, and throwing things, just the start i know.
Me and DH are trying our hardest and with working full time also were finding it hard.

CAn anyone out there relate to any of these in your experiences??

Thankyou0

Growing pains seems unlikely at his age but you never know!

Have you thought about cranial osteopathy?

It may be that he is getting pain from his body not being completely aligned correctly.

In the womb, they are squished and squashed and if for example, you had a traumatic birth, he may have experienced a bit of moulding and pressure somewhere.

You could book a session with a registered Cranial Osteopath here and get a first assessment. It's around £26-£30 but if it makes a difference to him, he'll be happier and you'll all get a great night's sleep.

My ds had it and within 2 sessions could sleep on his back (he couldn't do that before) and wasn't waking throughout the night.

Hello

Both of mine went through a stage of having night terrors,they grow out of it eventually.

Can you see the HV re the waking?She may have some suggestions.If the waking is getting a real problem you could ask to be referred to a sleep clinic for advice

The tantrums sound completely normal for his age,unfortunately it isn't called terrible twos for nothing.I am no expert but I think the key is consistency here,keep stating "No" for the bad behaviuor,not pandering to the tantrums.I felt like making a tape recording of myself saying "No" at this stage because I seemed to say it at about 1000 times a day.Reinforcing the good behaviour with lots of praise.It is a very tiring stage but they do come through the other side!

Just my twopennorth.Hopefully others can input better and more constructive advice!!

good luck,Mavisx

Thanks very much for the replys.

I didnt have a traumatic birth so not sure if it is cranial osteopathy. But will mention o my health visitor i have been to her a few times now about sleeping and night terrors, but there isnt much you can do for night terrors ad like you say mavisenderby he should eventually grow out of them.

Did your LO get aggressive during the terrors and inconsoluble? Our DS doent want me of my DH and it can be quite upsetting, last night he had one and it lasted 25 mins and we felt usless just had to sit and wait for him to calm down.

The wakening and rubbing his legs has concerned me as he does appear to be in pain, my youngest brother had a iron deficiency when he was younger and he was prone to restless legs, and my mam has explained that he was exactly the same kicking and rubbing his legs during the night he is 7 and still wakens now and again. Not sure if this is it but sounds simular.

Another worry we have is that we feel when we take our DS to the doctors of HV they dont take us seriously and many times iv came out and wanted to cry, iv felt as if iv wasted my time and that they dont believe me.

sorry iv put of instead of or.

Hello OP, in adults restless legs can be caused by a magnesium deficiency or a calcium/magnesium inbalance. I got them in pregancy and sorted it with a magnesium supplement. Perhaps speak to a nutrionist? I wouln't have a clue how to dose a little one

Shellmc - cranial osteopathy isn't an illness - that's the treatment you have for babies and children who may have suffered a bit of disalignment before or during birth.

Thanks sparklyboots, thats good to know, i will mention it to healthvisitor next week when she calls me.

Vintageteacups- ahhh i see sorry i misunderstood, i will look this up and see where offers the treatment, hoe would i know this is what could be the cause???

Last nigh was horrendous, me and hubby up 7 times with DS. Poor wee man x