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Aggressive DD aged nearly 2 - Help needed!

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jasperc163 · 08/03/2011 12:53

Hi - i have posted on here before about DD2 (nearly 2) thuggish behaviour. I know that things will improve in time and that it may be that i have to wait it out but i am getting desperate to try and find ways to deal with it.

I try to attend the local toddler group (biweekly) and have to spend alot of the time keeping DD2 away from any babies or young toddlers (she is fine with older children) but failed at the last hurdle today - she bit a small girl on her face!!! I am obviously mortified. Generally she pushes and grabs faces and she makes a beeline for small children (it is premeditated and not provoked). It has been going on now for about 8 months but is worse at the moment. We talk about being gentle, saying sorry, not hurting children etc and I remove her and try to keep her otherwise occupied but its like red rag to a bull.

I had wanted to carry on attending this group for my own sanity and having some local contact with people but it is looking like it is just impossible.

Has anyone managed to deal with more extreme behaviour like this (I know a certain amount is normal but it is worse than that) in any way with child this age (2 in April). As yet she seems to have no understanding of consequences of course. She has a very quiet sensitive 5yr old sister who she also bullies a little so it isnt that she has had to learn to defend herself at home. She is at a childminder 3 days per week and has done the same there although improves with children she knows over time.

Can anyone help please?

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jasperc163 · 08/03/2011 18:19

ps meant to ask - has anyone managed to implement some kind of 'time out/naughty step' with a toddler - if so how as obviously she won't sit still anywhere for 2 seconds!

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wideratthehips · 08/03/2011 19:29

get her a baby doll so that she can poke its eyes and do other things to it, but also learn to be gentle and wrap it up and give it cuddles etc?? may sound daft but she could divert her interest to the doll and encourage a gentler interaction.

i had the same problem with dsons around this age gentle big brother wild little brother..it takes time!

moomaa · 08/03/2011 21:40

I have done naughty step (corner in our house) with toddlers, but had to do lots and lots of putting them back in it to start with, also have a worse option than the corner (the cold corner in the porch) and they know they go there if they won't stay.

Can you find activites with only older children in them? e.g here there are playgroups age 18 months up and things like tumble tots and music classes are divided by age.

p.s have been to lots of playgroups and have seen quite a few behave like this and on the whole they seem to grow out of it.

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