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Food-fuelled raspberry-blowing

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ParisMum · 21/10/2005 13:59

my dd (1.1) has always been a very good eater but a while ago she started to blow raspberries when she'd had enough to eat. I told her off the first few times then thought I should try ignoring it if it was just her way of telling me she's had enough.
now that she is capable of saying 'no, no, no' I had hoped that this would stop but it's getting worse and worse and I'm not handling it very well at all. I've started dreading mealtimes as I know that at some point I'm going to get spat at and end up getting cross with her.
any advice???

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WigWamBam · 21/10/2005 14:05

IME it's not a behavioural thing particularly - it's a new trick, and like all new tricks will be repeated ad nauseam until the novelty wears off.

It will pass, but in the meantime all you can do is what you're doing now - tell her firmly "No" when she does it, then take the plate and yourself away. Leave her on her own in the high chair for a short time (only a minute) before you go back to her.

If you get cross you provide endless hours of entertainment and amusement. If you stay calm there's no fun to be had from doing it and it will (hopefully!) stop.

mumfor1sttime · 21/10/2005 14:15

My ds would blow rasberries while eating, which led to food going everywhere! I ignored this and it stopped. He is 9 months.

auntymandy · 21/10/2005 14:20

oh my youngest DS didnt do this
The others di though how funny is it!

fredly · 21/10/2005 15:58

my dd did it for ages, several weeks at least. It never really bothered us, even made me laugh ! she stopped eventually. She's 13mths.

aloha · 21/10/2005 16:12

Do remember that for a child, spitting has none of the connotations of disgust and disrespect that it has for you, so please don't let your emotional response overwhelm you. Of course it isn't pleasant to be splattered with food, but to her it's just funny, a good sensation and gets a HUGE response from mummy. I would say you have to persevere with no attention - ie any spitting you say calmly 'no spitting' take away her food and remove eye contact and engagement. Make it boring enough and it should stop.

trinityrocks · 21/10/2005 19:43

Funnny you should start this thread, my dd2 has just started doing this, she's only 6 1/2 months and I don't think she is doing it on purpose at just the right time, but it is still really annoying!!!!

startingtobehalloweenylover · 21/10/2005 19:53

ds has just stopped doing this! he is 8months....
i used to ignore it, or if i could see he was about to do it i would offer him a drink, or put the spoon back in his mouth.
if he kept doing it then he came out of his highchair...
this was with every mouthful ythough, so no point keeping on feeding him when it was all getting spat out

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ParisMum · 22/10/2005 19:39

thank you all for your words of wisdom
I think I will stick with your plan WWB and hope she gives up on this soon. She definitely seems to be using it as a way of saying she's had enough rather than trying to get a rise from me, although sometimes she also does it when it's something she really likes and it's the last mouthful.
I'm not usually a stressed-mummy Fredly, but I just can't seem to see the funny side. I must just be having a sense of humour failure.
So when will she be able to say 'thanks mummy, that was lovely but I've had sufficient now' ?

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