Screaming in the mornings. How can I stop this habit?

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As a baby, whenever DS woke in the morning crying we brought him in our bed for a cuddle and maybe extra sleep. He slept through from 7-7 ish from 2 months old which was great, so we didn't mind having him in bed.

At about 13 months he started waking anytime from 5am and we would leave him for 10 mins before getting annoyed and bring him in our bed. He's just turned 15 months and decided we've had enough but cannot get out of this habit.
His crying turns into this awful high pitched screech, horrible to listen to.
I've tried going in, cuddle and putting him down again but it's not working. I've left it for five minutes longer each morning and it's driving us crazy.
This morning it was an hour and half of screaming on and off before I just put him in our bed again.

I also feel sorry for the neighbours who must be able to hear him. They've only just moved in next door....hate to think what they say about us letting him cry for so long. DP says nothing to do with them, but I cringe. Never hear their toddler crying.

Anyway, what can I try? Do I just persevere and hope it gets better?
Will it get better on it's own? Is it that bad to put him in our bed being so young?

Thanks

Some children are just early risers, especially as dawn starts arriving earlier. I think you're just going to have to get up when he does.

Sorry, probably not what you want to hear but get up at 5 (or whenever he wakes) if you don't want to bring him in bed with you.

A 15 month old is not being unreasonable (to coin a phrase) by waking at 5, imo.

Personally, DS2 (19 months) comes in with us when he wakes, which he's happy with as long as we get him a cup of milk. He drinks the milk, sometimes drops back to sleep, or just burbles and plays with a coupple of toys we have at the end of our bed for just this purpose!

He's the youngest of 4, with the older ones we were less lazy tired, and got up at 5ish.

From about 2, when they drop their daytimes naps, ours have all slept 7-7.

Mine used to wake up at 4 or 5am from about 18 months. It stopped when she started pre-school at age 3.5.

I think it might be a phase they go through.

We used to take turns to get up with her - one of us up at 5am, the other get up at 6.30am - then first one go back to bed for an hour or two.

It's exhausting but it did pass with us.

Drop a nap, and spend the afternoon in the park running the child ragged in the cold fresh air. See what happens.

i would just bring him in with you. he'll grow out of it eventually

Hoping it passes. Someone at work is still having her 6 year old son coming in bed in the morning. Scary.

Some days he doesn't nap at all if out and about, not made any difference though.
Will try the taking turns getting up but it's usually me as I'm off 4 days, not always easy when I work shifts the other 3.

Thanks xx

Agree with the poster that siad drop the nap and get lots of fresh air/physical activity during the day (weather permitting).

A balck out blind also helps for this time of year.

Our madam was the same at that age - 4.55 am on the button every morning - and I used to go in and pat her back and just say "still sleep time" and leave the room, returning every min or so until she fell back asleep ignoring all efforts by her to engage in conversation etc.

It took a bit of doing but after a week or so she started to sleep past her 4.55am internal alarm clock .

Good luck.

Having a 6 year old coming into bed in the morning is not particularly scary - especially if they are not bugging anyone. Leaving an 15 month old to scream for an hour and a half in the morning when they are ready to get up for the day sounds way scarier to me.

What time is he going to bed? Try putting him to bed an hour later and see if he sleeps later. Don't just try it for one night and decide it doesn't work - give it a few weeks so he had time to adjust.

my 6 year old comes into my bed in the morning. and my 3 year old, and my 22 month old!
it's kind of cosy

but i think when you have children you have to accept that when they wake up then you get up too... or have them in your bed or in your room at least.
you can't force them to sleep

have you ruled out things like milkman delivering/boiler switching on and waking him

also I wonder if you have twigged that you have effectively taught him that screaming and crying eventually results in him being brought into your bed in the end? (said kindly)