ds and I have a daily battle about him getting himself dressed. I have seen him get himself dressed, he will do it on his own with encouragement from his grandparents, but refuses to even try when it is just me and him.
He is definitely capable of doing it but simply picks his things up, drops them again and says "I can't". He says he doesn't know how but won't let me show him how without a big tantrum.
he is currently sitting downstairs sobbing and wailing because I have told him to give it a try and he won't even pull his jeans up beyond his thighs, having managed perfectly well to get his legs into his trousers.
we have an incentive chart, but it is making nil difference to his attempts although he was pretty keen on the idea and chose the reward to work towards himself.
he is bright and articulate but very bad at giving things a go, trying harder etc. or he's just lazy. imo he needs to grow up a bit and get on with this next step - he's at preschool now and I've seen the other kids happily and easily take their own coats off / put them on, which they have to do if they want to play outside. am I being too tough? he would love to be babied forever if I played along I think. it's just me and him so it's not as if there's someone else in the house to try something different.