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Boundary pushing 5yr old DS

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Mermaidmad · 03/03/2011 17:42

My patience is wearing thin! DS is 5, 6 in June, & is firmly testing my boundaries. He has some speech & language issues (nothing major just a bit behind) but I know him well enough to know this is not related! Have noticed it is when we are out when I find it difficult to know how to give an immediate consequence. Main offence is basically ignoring me or answering no when asked to do something.
At home his behaviour is much better & I have few problems. If he acts up he is sent to his room (which he finds annoying) for 5 mins, made to apologise etc. End of problem. However, when we are out I just can't get through to him that I mean what I say.
Have got reward charts for good behaviour etc & he really enjoys putting a star up but just doesn't seem that bothered when I have to take one away.
Just got back from a swimming lesson with him & he was acting up for the teacher too. She made him get out the pool & miss a turn which sorted him out & he behaved after that. Is good at school & is motivated by the visual red/green/gold behaviour chart.

Any ideas or tips that have worked for you? Thanks!

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Skifit · 03/03/2011 18:18

Does he have a favourite toy at home that maybe you can take away if he is disobedient when you are out.?
Or maybe you can stop him watching a TV programme when he gets home, if he ignores you ?
Immediately he says "No", or ignores you when out go up to him, get right down to his level and say "You do not say No to Mummy/ you do not ignore me when I am talking to you " "If you do it again,, I am sending to your bedroom when we get home"
I have 3 children, 2 are grown up , and I have found with bad behaviour out , some of it you can ignore, but other behaviour you just cant , and I have given them a good telling off, with no concern who can hear me.

I would physically make him do what you have asked him to do, and be firm.

Let him know you mean business.
Afterall, you dont want him saying "No" when it could be a dangerous situation he is in. Plus, you dont want him ignoring you when he could get badly hurt. . (Roads etc)
Good luck....I know its not easy. x

allovertheshop · 03/03/2011 20:07

Sounds to me like you are doing a great job. Just perservere in what you are doing - the idea of the favourite toy sounds like a good idea.

I have had times with DS esp around that age when I thought he would never get easier but he did at the latter end of 5 years.

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