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My 10 week old daughter screams at her dad

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luckykitty · 03/03/2011 11:07

Our ten week old daughter screams and screams at my partner (her dad), we have tried everything but as soon as she is away from me and with him she becomes awfully upset and screams until she goes a purpley colour and as soon as I have her back she's fine again.
This is putting a terrible strain on everything as we both feel really crap about it, he feels like she hates him and he feels bad that she will only settle for me which means whenever I need to do something he's left with a howling little one, and I'm constantly calming down and trying to entertain her.
She doesn't sleep much in the day either, she has to be entertained by a person, ie. Me, all the time, she's got a baby swing, bouncer, play nest but nothing makes her happy for more than 5 mins.
She won't sleep anywhere other than in bed with me but not if her dads there too, I think we are all going to go nuts.
Any advice on any of that?! Thanks x

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RachelHRD · 03/03/2011 11:13

Are you breast feeding? If you are it's probably more to do with the smell of you than that she dislikes your DH - must be hard for him though poor man!

Could you try wearing a muslin and then handing that over with her when you give her to DH - she may just be missing the smell of milk. If you do BF - could you express some so that your DH could give it to her in a bottle - might help the bonding process.

whoamamma · 03/03/2011 16:34

Following on from rachel, see if your husband wearing one of your tops helps.

Sparklyboots · 04/03/2011 17:58

I read somehere that some babies get separation anxiety at 2 months (then 9, apparently). If it's this, she should get over it soon on her own. /hth

minesarioja · 04/03/2011 18:52

We had this too - DS now 4 months. It was not quite as bad as what you describe but he went ballistic when dad tried to put him to bed which would be an issue if I ever wanted to go out. We persevered cold turkey for about 3 days and it took about 40 minutes of screaming to settle hm. I didn't go near the bedroom. It worked. He is better now but the only trouble is DH gets home after his bedtime most nights and so I end up doing it. I think it will settle when you move onto bottles and solids as your partner can help more. My DH does the 11pm feed with a bottle of formula so I get the night off and can have a glass or two of wine...

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