DD was 3 last month. She has always had fairly extreme behaviour. At five weeks old she learnt to cry until she was sick, by the time she was one she used to bang her head on walls or the floor if she couldn't have what she wanted. By the time she was two she more or less stopped having tantrums. When she was 2.3 we had another baby which was greated with a casual slap every time she walked past, but for the last six months her behaviour has been exemplarly.
On her third birthday she cried until she was sick at playgroup, and since then she has been having increasingly severe tantrums (over nothing). She has now wet herself three times while she has been having tantrums, and tonight she both vomited and wet herself because I wouldn't pick up some beads I had dropped immediately. (I was cooking tea). She isn't crying for long- no more than a couple of minutes before she wees.
She has been dry in the day since September.
I know that the tantrums are basically just attention seeking, but she gets lots and lots of attention - I am still on maternity leave at the moment - and she gets a good amount of one to one time with either me or DH every day. I cannot give her more time, and in fact in a month I am going back to work and she will get less.
Any suggestions?