Siblings fighting (Toddler and Baby)

[Pigleychez]

DD1 is 2.5 and has been fine with the arrival of her sister. No real jealousy or anything.

DD2 is now 9mths and crawling which has opened a whole can of worms!
Now she can now reach DD1's toys which really isnt popular. DD1 screeches and snatches toys back off of her or pushes her away. Shes started pulling herself up so often leads to her falling down.
Little DD2 is abit of a fiesty madam and has started fighting back. She holds on tight to toys so they are literally playing tug of war with the toys! She also will lunge forward to swip DD1 or pull her hair which sets her off even more.

Basically I want her to stop freaking out about DD2 even coming remotely near her toys.
Ive tried being sturn but that doesnt seem to be working. Im currently trying rewarding good behaviour with stickers which is having variable sucess.

Its just getting so very draining!

Anyone else experienced similar ? any words of wisdom?

You are describing our household right down to the ages of the girls and the forward lnging swip/hair pull. I am finding it difficult but have managed to persuade DD1 to swap things out with DD2, so she now offers DD2 an alternative toy, DD2 lets go of the one she has and DD1 grabs and runs with the toy.

Am going to watch for anymore constructive advice.

Glad im not alone!

DD1 does do the toys swapping which works to a certain extent but DD2 doesnt always want to swap. She maybe small but she knows her mind!
Plus it seems abit unfair when its actually one of DD2's toys and its just cause DD1 wants it.

DD1 is also going through a whiney/agruementative phase so I feel im spending my whole day moaning and telling them off!

We had this. I let older DD (who was about same age when DD2 started crawling/getting her toys) to choose which were here 'special' toys, and these we would keep up in her bedroom or up on a high shelf. DD1 could play with them whenever she wanted to, but they were big girls toys, not for her sister (they were really baby toys, but we told her they were for big girls). Seemed to work as she felt special and that she had some special things DD2 couldn't have. They were generally played with at the table as DD2 couldn't climb up to reach them. by the time she could climb up DD1 had got more used to DD2 getting her toys.
Good luck,.

in our house if you have something and someone else tries to take it you TELL MUMMY, or you move out of the way. play at the table or upstairs or whatever

oh and whoever had the toy first gets to keep it regardless of who it belongs to because it's not ok to just take something away from someone when they're playing with it (unless it's a comfort toy)

there's more than enough to go round