DD 4.8yo and not dry during the day

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So I'm a bit worried really. Every day she comes home from school and she has wet herself. Last week when we were on holiday she did manage to be dry but only because I took her to the toliet every half an hour. The only time she went without being reminded was when she had already started to wee and ran to the toliet dribbling all the way.

I'm worried that she is not getting the "urge" feeling until she is actually weeing.

I do not shout at her when she wets herself and I have tried using a reward chart for weeks but she just can't manage it and only get s stars on the weekends when she is with me and I remind her all the time.

Am I right to be concerend or is it normal for her to still be having probelms with this?

I have to go back to work now but will be back at 4pm

Thanks

Does she leave it too long? DD was dry by 3, but would often not pee at school. She would come home and piss like a racehorse.
I asked her teacher to remind her every hour or so that she could have a go. It did work.
Now she is 9.9 and still forgets to go so ends up doing the weewee waddle and frequently pees around a litre.

Is she drinking enough? The bladder is a muscle that needs a work out just like other muscles and for some children they need to up their drinking to receive suffciently strong messages that they need a wee. Its often the case that when children start school they just dont drink enough so I wd encourage that first. You may have couple of days when this seems counterproductive but persevere! What you dont want to do is try and cram a whole days drinking in after school. I would also advise you not to take her to the loo every half an hour-you are not letting her bladder get sufficiently full. Also lots of girls dont empty their bladder effectively when they do wee so when she does go always say try and do a tiny bit more-this normally sorts out some dribbling problems.

If she is doing frequent wees or complaining of pain, you need to rule out a UTI.
HTH

She does leaves it too long. I'm not sure about the drinking oddgirl I will ask at school. Thanks for the adive on getting her to to empty her bladder. I just don't think she knows she needs to go until she goes though.

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I do know a couple of dcs like this in reception. I would probably get her checked by the GP for a water infection just in case. I know that mine barely drinks at all at school - they are left to help themselves which they don't do. But I think one little girl I know is quite traumatised by the change that school brings and doesn't like to use the toilets on her own, particularly because they are mixed. Maybe have a word with school and see what's happening there?

Thanks will do. I'm not sure its just school though. We have only had one or two dry weeks in two and a half years.

I think I would be going to the GP then, just to make sure there's nothing wrong. Having said that I don't think it's unusual - they are all different and I know a couple of dcs still having problems with this at this age.

Thanks hmmm. Do you think I should see the gp or the school nurse?

Maybe try either - they can both do a quick dipstick or urine to see if any unusual chemicals in there.

But does sound a bit unusual and although it's not affecting her socially so much now, it will be maybe by year 1.

PS I'm no expert - just a mum with a 5 yr old.

Thanks.

I have a little girl who will be five in June who is very similar. I had an appointment with the school nurse yesterday and much of what we said was similar to the advice you've already had.

We came to the conclusion that the crux of the issue was that she wasn't drinking enough, especially at school where she only has access to water.

I was told to bulk up her drinks before and after school, and even to consider sending her into school with one of those clear fruit drinks (which look like water), just to make sure she keeps drinking.

Also have a look at www.eric.org.uk. There's loads of useful info there.

They can be referred to an in this area from the age of 5. So if she doesn't improve, it's not long to go.

Good luck. I've been there too.

Just to add. We had her tested for UTIs and nothing. Otherwise she's healthy and happy and confident. But she seems unworried by being wet.

Thanks MMQC. I'll have a look at your link later. my DDis also unworried about being wet and will not tell me an sit in it. Will give it some more time and see how we get on over the summer holidays I think.