8yr old blatantly disobeying and lying - what to do?

[MissRead]

I'm at a loss how to deal with my DD, I have posted recently that she is pushing the boundaries a bit as she gets older but I thought things were improving. Now I find that has done something I specifically told her not to do and out and out lied to me about it when questioned. I really don't know how to handle this, I've always been extremely strict but it seems to be backfiring lately and she is rebelling against me - at 8! Has anyone got any advice please? I feel that how I handle things now is key to how she behaves in the future and I don't want to mess up :(

i would start by pointing out that you now are going to find it very hard to believe anything she says, and taht you will not be trusting her to do/not do things...

perhaps you have been too strict with her and the lying is through fear of what will happen should she get found out?
i mean, that doesn't excuse what she did to start with, but I think it's possible to go overboard with punishments and end up with a child who lies rather than one who behaves

I also think it's a very common phase chbildren go through!

That's how I feel but it's so hard to know where to draw the line. How come it always feels like my fault even when it's her that's doing wrong? :(