4 year old wanting Mummy all the time? Help

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My 4 year old daughter has started wanting me all the time. Problem stated a few weeks ago, she has started to cry when she knew she was going to the childminder (she only goes to her 2 afternnons a week), then she started crying at preschool and now crying when at grandmas, all the crying is for Mummy? She has been at preschool since she was 2.5 and never cried once in all the time she has been there, she has been with childminder since september last year and again always loved going. As for grandmas she has been going since baby and loves it there normally. She went through a stage simlar when she was about 1.5 but grew out of it, but it seems she gets very upset when she is not with me? I thought she was growing up very well but I feel as though we have taken a step backwards? any help advice much appreciated ta

Is there any change coming that she could be aware of affecting her? My 3 year old boy, who loved nursery and is pretty confident, suddenly started wailing when i dropped him off and I couldn't go up to the loo at home without him having a breakdown. I was pregnant and he knew pre-school was coming (in the same building just a different room) so it could have been either or both of these - just a sense of things changing I think. Anyway, it passed and he now loves pre-school and his sister. Recently we thought he was ready to come out of nighttime pull-ups (he's now 3 and a half) as 90% dry. He did well at first but seemed tired and cross and started wetting more and it took me a while to put my finger on it, but as soon as I suggested going back in pull-ups he jumped at it and is back to his old silly self and dry (in pull-ups). I think it was a a bit stressfull for him, too much growing up too fast.

My two (twins) were 4 in January and we are just going through this. DT1 is pretty much over it but DT2 in the throes. Loved pre-school now very anti, wanting me all the time and not DH. Also very bad nightmares. We think it might be impending school, although really I don't know. It might also be swimming lessons(!) which have been a nightmare - they won't go in the pool without me or DH (although all the other children do) and it all got made into a bit of a drama.

Just noticed some improvement over the weekend with DT2 - he let DH (who works long hours during the week) come home on Friday eve and do bathtime - usually tears and tantrums if this is suggested when they haven't really seen DH during the week. So, hopefully we are coming out the other side with him as well.

No advice or answers, other than hopefully 'its a phase'!!!!!

Glad Im not the only one! No changes coming up, only the talk of going to big school in september. She has only just turned 4 and keeps asking for her bedroom to be changed into a big girls room, telling me she wants new wallpaper and things, but then acts very babyish sometimes i.e still asking for a dummy! and yes she does still have it, tried for over a year to get rid of it. My hubby and I are giving her lots of support and some pals say maybe I am been to nice and have to start been cruel to be kind! This is beacuse she was upset at nursery and I came home from work just to pick her up rather than the childminder who was due to pick her up to stop crying. Just hope the 'phase' dont last too long!