HOW TO GET A 3 YEAR OLD TO START WHINING AND WHINGING

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staying at grandparent me,hubby and him

and he whinges at everything
does so usually at home but veyr bad here

worse thing is rude to his grandfather and that i really do not know how to tackle!

screams for every whim

upset if someone helps him /upset if doesn't

cries if lego falls apart

whines at everything

what can i do?

Ah, I think you mean "HOW TO GET A 3 YEAR OLD TO STOP WHINING AND WHINGING" ??

For a a start I would check I was speaking to him in a calm, patient voice, and then tell him when he speaks nicely, calmly, politely etc., then someone will help him/listen to him perhaps?

Assuming that you mean STOP_ (in my esperience Starting whinging at 3 was NOT the problem, getting it to end was).

About the only thing that vaguely worked with nightmare DD (the worlds MOST whingiest child!) was ignoring.

Three is a horrilbe age and you just have to grit your teeth and get on with it.

Sounds like he's overtired and probably overexcited. Make sure he gets his usual naps and plenty of 'down' time away from toys and grandparents (I know from experience my children's grandparents wind them up something rotten).

Take the piss a bit? But you have to gauge that carefully. It worked on Ds2 ... I would say "I caaannn't heeeeear yoouuuu, you're not whhhhhiiiinnnnny enough, whhhhinnnnnnnne mooorrrrre for meeeeeeee!"

I was just thinking, oh that is easy to start a 3year old whinging :o

for the stopping part:

• excercise (outside)
• sleep
• ignoring bad behaviour
• remembering he is only little

model how to ask 'nicely' and give examples.
don't give in to requests that are whinged. wait until he asks nicely.
def agree tiredness and hunger make whinging worse (me and the dc )
my 2.5 does my head in with this, so sympathies!

book - playful parenting by cohen. buy through amazon. whining is often attention seeking or a reflection of how the parents feel.

mine get nothing without a please or thankyou i must say. they also have to use their nice voice. i tend to model how want them to say something. ie -'please can i have have more space to build my tower'

make sure he is getting enough sleep.

BOY OH B OY WHAT A TYPO

STOP NOT START!!!

so sorry

anyway any advice much appreicated

just had my mum telling me my three and half year old is very badly behaved as he always whines, throws himself on floor and never calms down!

not hyperactive by the way as is now playing nicely with duplo

buyt thanks for all your tips - more please as really feel lost and lonely

you are really not on your own bumley. lots of us have struggled with this too.

My friend heard this brilliant idea from another friend.

Her 3 year old was constantly whinging and whinning. So she told her that Mummy was going to the doctors to have some special ears fitted which could no longer hear whinning and whinging. If her DD wanted to speak to her she would have to speak in a normal polite voice or Mummy would not be able to hear what she was saying.

You obviously have to follow this up and make sure that you don't respond to any requests or demands made in the whiny whingy voice.

Just thought this was a great idea.

That's funny lavenderbongo but personally, I wouldn't lie... but you could do a similar playful parenting type 'oooh i think my ears have got something in them because i cant hear you properly' 'whjat is it? a sausage? a lion?' 'ohhhh its YOu - you'll have to ask in a normal voice then i can hear you.' . You have to get the tone right, silly not sarcastic.

I second Skybluepearl's book suggestion, it's very good - also at reminding you your child is being a CHILD not hideously badly behaved. Dd was pretty well-behaved, minimal strops etc but she still had whiny moments. So ignore your mum and her rose-tinted specs!