5 year old who doesn't do as he's told

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I know, I know, this has been done to death.

Some friends visited last week and it really made me realise how badly behaved my DS is.

Well, he's not really. He's not mean, or nasty and he doesn't do terrible things, he just won't listen to a word I say.

So if I tell him to stop jumping on the sofa, he just keeps going. If he eventually does stop he will move onto something else that he knows I don't want him to do.

He get very overexcited (over tired) and this makes him 'skittish', when he behaves worse.

I have a 3 year old as well.

I've tried time out but he won't stay. Just laughs at me and thinks it's a game to try and escape.

I think my problem is that they he seems to find a knack of doing just a little bit past what I want him to do (eg. if I ask him not to throw something he'll start 'dropping' it instead')

I know he's testing the boundaries but so far he's winning!

He has a reward chart for good bedtimes which is working well but I'm not sure giving him a reward chart for EVERYTHING is going to work.

He also doesn't listen at all.

Help!

sounds a bit like my ds1, who's 4.8. He's particularly bad in company, and doesnt seem able to control himself when others are around. He does the same doing stuff he knows he shouldnt, nothing drastic, just swinging a tea towel round or bashing his cars slightly too hard. I havent mastered this problem myself, but i would say the better we are getting on in general the less he feels the need to do this. It seems like attention seeking to me, and unfortunately i end up giving it to him, but not in a good way!
Sometimes it feels like a battle of wills between us. Ds2 is so much easier!

Recommend playful parenting.

5 year old does not do as he is told.
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normal normal normal, just think of ways to avoid direct confrontation (in the main) and save energy for the really big battles

ha ha witch! I know!

It's just I always feel like a shrieky harpie in the midst of some whirlwind. Am always trying to stop one of them from getting themself into trouble.

Maybe I actually need to DO more stuff with them. But I find it so hard to get DS1 to calm down to a sufficient level that I can actually get involved with him. I try to get him to play a game or do a jigsaw and he is virtually on the ceiling.

Yesterday, I tried to get him to play in the garden on the trampoline or climbing frame if he had so much energy but he refused to go outside and instead just did laps of the house

Hi I know this is very old but I've never read anything so similar to my son!!! How did yours turn out?? 🙈🙈

I think I’ve come across this before when researching my DS 😂

Mine was like this, is now 8. He has ADHD.