Please advice on DS change of behaviour

[preciousmum]

Hi there.
My DS is 5 and half in reception.he's very mature and well behaved,i noticed that he hang arround with the same group of friend at school,when he's talking to me about them,and their caracter,he mentioned that one of them hasn't got very good manners that you mummy would be proud of him,and i didn't say nothing about him,though still play with him.For the last few weeks he's teacher mentioned that my son's behaviour became distruptive but not naughty.Also we useally walk holding hands,and recently he wants to walk alone ,and running and making funny loud voices while going or coming back from school,which i couldn't tolerate,i am worried that if i let it go,he might get into some sort of antisocial behaviour habits.I am really confused ,is it normal? or should i correct him everytime he did something that is anusual about him?at the same time iam worried that i am over reacting,and i don't wants to be a controling mum.Please advice iam in real dilema about what is acceptable and what is not? PS; SORRY ENGLISH is not my first language.).
Thanks.

Hi PM.

i wouldn't be too worried tbh.

in reception their friendships change like the wind.I would try to encourage friendships with the non disruptive children,maybe invite them round to play if this is possible?

I think as long as you lay down the groundrules of your standards of behaviour your ds will comply.ds often says "Well xx's mummy lets him do that" to which I reply,"Well I'm not xx's mummy and I don't think that is right".He will inevitably meet a broad range of people at school and later on in general life.All you can do as a mum is provide firm but fair guidelines and be consistent.

Wanting to walk alone,I think maybe a small step to developing independence,but I bet if he is upset you are the first person he turns too:)

Loud noises..don't get me started.I think it is a boy thing.I wish ds had a volume switch!If it gets too much I do comment but I think it is part of small boyness!!

I am sure he will turn into a lovely young man.Its such a hard balance between protecting them and letting them develop into their own unique person

Thanks Mavis.iam feeling a bit releifed.For every slight change,i get so worried,and start thinking in long term.
This MN is fantastic.).

:)

very normal. My ds1 also in reception seems to go a bit crazy on way home from school and i see many others the same, including girls. Loud silly noises, lots of poo poo jokes, running around etc. I wouldnt worry about it, i doubt it spells trouble for the future. I know what you mean though, every change makes you panic! He may well pick up bad habits, but he'll soon learn from you whats acceptable.