4 yr old with tightness issues.

[nboswell]

Hi, can anyone offer any advice or help please. My 4 yr old daughter has issues with having to have things tight. She has 3 issues with this, but rarley all 3 at the same time.

1. she likes her seat belt in the car to be so tight I think it must cut off her circulation.
2. her shoes have to be strapped on so tight that it leaves deep red indents in her feet when she takes them off.
3. She has to wear her hair bobble so tight that when it loosens she cant handle it.

Her worst issue by far is 3. She has to wear her hair up for school so leaving it down is not an option. I do her hair in the morning but once the bobble is in she says its too loose and has to keep pulling it tight. Not matter how many times I do her hair its never good enough. Ive tried using more bobbles but this doesnt help either. She has to keep pulling her hair tighter and tighter that she then cries because her hands hurt from pulling so hard.

These issues are really starting to become a problem and every morning we have tears before school because her hair isnt tight enough. She will eventually accept that she has to wear the bobble but spends all morning on the way to school pulling at it.

I'm sure she will just grow out of it ( I hope) but wondered if anyone else has come across the same sort of thing.

Thanks for any advice.
Nicola

Sounds like anxiety ?
How long has she been like this ?
I would think back to what was happening in her life when it began as it is like OCD isn't it ? She is very young so may not be able to express what is troubling her - and may not even know what it is herself.

Try not to overreact to it or let her see it upsets you, but personally I would seek help from a professional, health visitor/GP