My 10 Week old Will not go down until 12am!

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hello,

First time on here but need some advise!?

My 10 week old baby will not settle until 12am. She has a bath at 6pm and fed by 7 (breast) and will just cry until her next feed... I can only last until 9.30 -10.00pm! (my husband is not around in the evenings!) I've begun giving her formula (5oz) which she accepts but will not go down until she is breast fed to sleep! I know I have developed a terrible habit and am rather concerned that she will never settle on her own.

I do try to put her in her cot (controlled crying) but she screams the place down (my poor neighbors - I live in a flat)

Any advice would be greatly appreciated... When she goes down at 12am she will sleep until 5.30 - 6.00 :-)

Thanks you for reading!!!
cxx

hello,

First time on here but need some advise!?

My 10 week old baby will not settle until 12am. She has a bath at 6pm and fed by 7 (breast) and will just cry until her next feed... I can only last until 9.30 -10.00pm! (my husband is not around in the evenings!) I've begun giving her formula (5oz)for her last feed which she accepts but will not go down until she is breast fed to sleep! I know I have developed a terrible habit and am rather concerned that she will never settle on her own.

I do try to put her in her cot (controlled crying) but she screams the place down (my poor neighbors - I live in a flat)

Any advice would be greatly appreciated... When she goes down at 12am she will sleep until 5.30 - 6.00 :-)

Thanks you for reading!!!
cxx

Hello

sorry you are having a hard time. Firstly, 10 weeks old is very young - controlled crying is generally not recommended for babies under 6 months. I'm not anti cc it's just I don't think it's appropriate at 10 weeks old. It's really common for babies to be fussy in the evenings and also v common for them to want to be fed to sleep. PLEASE don't worry about bad habits at this stage. Your baby needs comfort and cuddles - I know that's hard to give for hours on end! For what it's worth my dd was fed to sleep until 13 months and the transition to pitting her down awake wa v easy. Also my daughter wouldn't go to sleep til v late. This is really common at this stage - my honest advice is just to go with it. She used to pass out at around 11 30 and have a good block of sleep until around 5 am so was a good deal for me. Does your baby sleep for a long time once she does go down? They naturally bring their bed time forward in my experience. I tend to find this expectation that all babies go to bed at 7pm is a bit unrealistic tbh. Setting up good habits re bath and feed is great and tht will stand u in good stead for when your dc does push her bedtime forward.

it's exhausting, but within the bounds of normal for such a young baby. at 10 weeks dd2 would only sleep in a sling or in bed with me. have you tried going up to bed early with your dd, letting her cluster feed, and dozing in between feeds?

she will settle on her own in time, and 10 weeks is a little young to be worrying about bad habits.

Ah I see you do get a block of sleep. I would say at this stage, this is really v good going. Not that it's much help to you but lots of babies are up at 2 hourly intervals through the night!

THANK YOU! I feel much better now! I guess I'm expecting too much! xxx

I would second going to bed early with her-nice dim lights, and keep stimulus low (I used to just cuddle, not talk and or put radio on), and let her cluster feed. She may also be colicky in the evenings which will get better on it's own very soon (most start settling after 12 weeks from colic)

Cc won't work now as she can't self soothe, it will just make you both stressed. You can try it when she is older, but by then she probably will be a very different (and much more chilled) baby anyway as she will no longer be a nrwborn.

You are doing well to have a block of sleep post 12am- if you called 12am a dream feed, in some people's criteria you could be boasting sh is sleeping through!!

Learn the mm mantra "this too shall pass" as it really will :) sounds like you are doing great :)

wow.... last night she went down at 9pm and i woke her at 11.30 for a feed she was up in the night but no tears!! I cluster fed from 5pm and played with her until her bath at 8pm, she also played on her own so i managed to have dinner!

before i was bathing at 6pm and putting her to bed at 7pm!

sorry for lower case i'm expressing!!

thanks! it was a massive step as she was happy :) xxx

:) glad you had a good night!

Awake and happy is good (asleep is better, but one step at a time!!)

Glad you had dinner-little things, hey