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Bedwetting advice needed

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Kendodd · 15/02/2011 14:14

My DS (just turned 4) had been taken out of night time nappies last week. So far we have had 10 wet beds (two a night sometimes). He did have a dry nappy a couple of nights a week before. What can we do to train him I am reluctant to put him back in nappies?

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familyfun · 15/02/2011 14:15

i would put him back in nappies. at night they cant help it. i waited till dd was dry every night for a fortnight till it tried her without a nappy. there is no rush

orangehead · 15/02/2011 14:21

I think 4 is a bit young uless he is showing more signs. Some children take a little longer to develop the physical ability to be dry in the night and there is not alot that can be done to train them till they are ready

piratecat · 15/02/2011 14:22

dd is 8, not dry.

ver annoying. 4 is too young to worry. 8 is a time to worry but i can't be bothered to worry too much enough just yet!

CristinaTheAstonishing · 15/02/2011 14:24

Sounds like he's not ready yet. I'd put him back in nappies. I think you needen't worry about betwetting at night till he's 7.

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Kendodd · 15/02/2011 14:43

I think maybe I missed my window. I remember when we took him out of nappies in the day (about 2.5) he straight away had about two weeks of dry night time nappies. Was this just a coincidence?

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orangehead · 15/02/2011 14:52

Piratecat ds2 is 7 and has now been dry for 2 months . We thoght it was never going to happen as bed very soaked every morning. We took him to eruesis clinic and they gave him the alarm and within a week he dry, although it doesnt work for everyone and they do have a waiting list. Dont know if you have gone down that route but thought I would mention it. It will happen soon though

Hullygully · 15/02/2011 14:53

bed mats and pull ups and don't worry about it unless it's still happening when he's 15.

bumpybecky · 15/02/2011 14:56

I'd put him back in nappies, it really isn't a problem at 4.

You might have missed a window, but it won't mean he's now doomed to a life of bedwetting! he'll get the hang of it eventually :)

Mumleigh · 15/02/2011 19:48

Hi,

I had the same problem with my son when he was four and was advised to lift him and put him on the loo before we go to bed ( about 11pm ) We did this for about a year and then the night before his fifth birthday we decided to leave him and see how he got on - he was dry and has been ever since ( now 5.4). Best advice I was given was not to worry about it - I would have put him back in pyjama pants but I was fed up with the cost of them! Good Luck.

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Kendodd · 15/02/2011 20:14

We have been taking him to the toilet before we go to bed and have often found him wet already, and then again in the morning. He sleeps through wetting himself. When we have taken him to the toilet (and his bed is still dry) sometime he doesn't do anything and is just annoyed about being woken up.

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Mumleigh · 16/02/2011 13:38

Oh it's a nightmare isn't it!What works for one will not work for all. Sounds like going back to nappies or pyjama pants is the best thing as it will make him feel better and save you a lot of stress and washing!Maybe try again in the summer.He will get there in the end.Once again good luck.

CappuccinoCarrie · 16/02/2011 13:43

My nearly 4yo still soaks her nappy every night. She clearly can't go 12 hours without a wee, and doesn't have the ability to know she's going to wee, and to wake up and take herself to the toilet. And similarly she would just keep sleeping in a soaking wet bed without a care. Just want you to know you're not alone, 4 is still very young (although of course everyone knows someone who was dry at 2...) and I'm not worried yet and neither should you be!

Blackduck · 16/02/2011 13:50

If he's wet before you go to bed he clearly isn't ready. lifting is not usually advised because they need to get the message from their body that they need to go to the loo. Ds is finally dry (way hey!) he is 7. Drs will not refer untila child is 7 because they know it can take that long for it to kick in. Check out www.eric.org or search threads on here for more info

Mumleigh · 16/02/2011 21:26

I think I agree Blackduck - lifting went against my own instincts for the same reason but my DS was unable to go through the night without wetting until he was 5 and as normal nappies just leaked and the bed mats were next to useless I had to use the Huggies Pyjama pants and I just got so fed up with paying out for them!

3point14 · 17/02/2011 00:08

Going through this now with a 3.5 year old girl.

Haven't a mattress protector as such but rather a cheap mattress topper (given free from Ikea but otherwise £20 or so) and easily washed if required.

We printed up a calendar and tick off the days when she is dry overnight and when we get to 7 in a row she knows she can try without her nappies at nightime. Previously we'd tried ad hoc with no incentive and with mixed results. She is now really keen to do away with nappies altogether and is the one who instigated this, we only putting the 7 days clear first.

So far 3 days in and 3 dry nights !

evolucy7 · 17/02/2011 13:30

Can I ask does he drink plenty in the day and go to the loo frequently, and then do you stop drinks after a certain time early evening?

Peetle · 17/02/2011 14:30

We have identical twin girls who are 3.7. One has had dry nappies in the morning for about 10 days and the other night got very upset as she got out of bed for a wee but hadn't managed to take her nappy off in time www.mumsnet.com/te/11.gif. So we're trying her without them and taking her for a wee when we go to bed. It's working so far and I'm surprised it is as she's so young.

Her identical twin sister still has a soaking nappy every morning and we're not worried about it and neither is she. So, different strokes, clearly.

They both frequently present us with a startlingly large poo in their potties in the morning, but that's another story.

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Kendodd · 17/02/2011 14:32

Good news, we have had two dry nights!

Both nights getting him up about 10pm to go to the loo. He does drink quite a lot and we don't ask him to drink less in the evening. Most of the day he is only allowed water though with juice with his breakfast and milk at bedtime. I don't want to ask him to drink less if his is thirsty.

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JennyPerez · 01/03/2011 14:53

I work for a charity called ERIC (Education and Resources for Improving Childhood continence) and we support children & parents who bedwet. We currently have 4 bed alarms to give away for free (retail price of £25) - in return for some feedback as to how you got on.
Please email me at [email protected] if you are interested - with contact details.
Many thanks !

RJ23 · 02/03/2011 21:49

DD number 2 (nearly 3) has started wetting the bed after being completely dry. I have put her back in nappies, but feel like we are regressing. My husband was keen to train her quickly. She has had a few accidents in the day recently too. Have we been too hasty. I am concerned she will get upset about it and will be counterproductive.

mamaduckbone · 02/03/2011 21:53

We went round in circles with ds1 at around 4 - he was dry most nights so gave up pull ups, then he was wetting so often with a new baby in the house as well that we were getting no sleep so he went back in them for another few months. He's now 5.4 and dry every night more or less, but still has the odd accident. I'd go back in the pull ups for now and relax about it.

MotherJack · 02/03/2011 21:55

Evolucy - don't restrict drinks in the evening. If your child rarely has a sense of a full bladder when asleep, they will not wake up when they do have one. They eventually get the sensation of needing to wee means waking up, before the sensation of wet bedding wakes them.

Drinks as normal. Washing machine on standby. It's a learning process.

RJ23 · 02/03/2011 21:57

mamaduckbone do you think pull ups in the day too? i have just put them on at night. I think she may be upset as she likes the pants grandma bought her?

MotherJack · 02/03/2011 22:02

Whoops, just re-read that (properly) Evo. You weren't asking the question for yourself, were you?

Stressywench · 02/03/2011 22:05

Someone advised us to get our girl up when we went to bed, which we did and we also took her straight to the loo in the morning. The stair gate had to go across her bedroom door because of our stupid house layout so she couldn't go to the loo by herself at night, so we made sure that we kept a potty in her room. She knew where it was before she went to sleep and with her nightlight on, she could see where it was if she needed it. She was dry by the time she was 3. The issue i had with nappies was that she couldn't tell that she was wet because the nappy had absorbed it. When she realised she didn't have a nappy on, and that she was wet, it wasn't too long before she got the hang of getting up. As for weeing during the day - we quickly discovered what most supermarket toilets were like! Our routine started...Get up, go to the toilet, have breakfast, go to the toilet, go the toilet before we left the house, go to the toilet as soon as you get anywhere.

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