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DD5 hitting classmate and I don;t know what to do

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yentil · 15/02/2011 12:57

DD1 is 5 and generally well behavaved at school doing well academically but in the past year has been hitting one girl in particular (3 occassions that i know of) who basically knows how to pull her strings (accuses her of doing things she hasn't etc). i have spoken to the teacher about my DD who has talked about behaviour diaries etc. however now it has come to light that parents of a few children have / are going to the head teacher to talk about my daughter hitting their childrenSad. i have tried being stern, being nice about it but DD gets upset when we talk about it and says no one will play with me mummy. I say they won't play with you if you hit them, but to be honest she was being ignored by lots of children before the hitting started because she is different ethnically and physically (at least a head taller than the next tallest in the year)what do i do. i am mortified, cried a few tears and now worried that this will escalate out of control. it seems its happening with the few chidlren that she is closet to! she knows she is different and normally is okay with this but seems to get frustrated when children say no you can't play with us etc.

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TreeHuggerMum1 · 15/02/2011 14:57

Gosh this is familiar!

I have a boy aged 5 and hes big for his age too. he started school in Sep in reception but as they had such a big intake in jan he has moved to year 1 but in my opinion he is too young to be there.
The little recep' ones don't want to play with him because he is too big and the big ones dont want to play with him as he is too young, he gets cross and thumps them... Or kicks in the willy, or pulls hair...

He is a lovely kid and I feel so bad, I try and explain that no-one will play if he is a bully but its his frustration coming out.
If you figure this one out let me know, I have no answers, just thought I'd let you know you are not the only one...

yentil · 16/02/2011 00:34

No answers yet sadly

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 16/02/2011 07:38

Please ask the school what they suggest. My DD was the object of violence of a girl supposedly her BF.
The girl in question was a giant compared to my bag of bones and I think her height and bulk was part of the problem. She couldn't help the height but her mother was a feeder.
In the end, after many months of my DD being really hurt physically by the other girl, the school intervened and put some anger management strategies in place. I don't know what they were, but DD became less bruised.

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