sorry if this is long......i have 18 month old twin boys who are very lively, happy, smiley little boys at home with me and in the company of people they know very well, which is really only DH, both sets of grandparents and an uncle who they see very regularly.
They are so shy, quiet and timid at mums and tots groups i have started taking them to. One is slighly better than the other and while sometimes they are ok, often they are clingy and are pulling at my leg wanting to be picked up and held. Today one just stood in a corner for what seemed like ages, just watching the other kids playing, i couldnt get him interested in any toys or get him to move into the middle of the room to interact with others, even his twin. Eventually he did play a little on some ride on toys and with some music stuff later. They are also so quiet, no babbling or words when at tots group and yet they babble away happyly to each other and me at home.
I am worried that i have introduced them to tots type groups and playgroups too late as i only started taking them after their 1st birthday and even then only maybe once a fortnight. Because they are twins i have found it hard to get out with them on my own particularly in the first 12 months. Although they have each other they have had relatively little social contact with other children, like i say as little as once a fortnight. Its so frustrating cos other people dont see the best of them, they are amazing at home with just me and DH, laughing, giggling, babbling, and VERY lively.
It is normal for so much social shyness at this age do you think?? i am a full time mum so they do not attend a nursery so its just mums and tots groups once, sometimes twice a week. Should i be going to M & T's more often than this???