At what stage did you.........

[MissCKitty]

put your baby in his/her own room. My 6 week old (she was 4 weeks prem) is having on and off nights when she won't settle and cries when she goes down. She is fed, changed and warm so she's just grizzling. I am happy to work through it as I do all the night feeds and DP sleeps through most of the time. However DP is saying that she shold be in her room by now. He says his son from a previous relationship was in his own room as soon as he came home from hospital and that our baby should be too. I am not comfortable with this as I think she is too small and vulnerable still. What do you think??

My DS was a year but that was down to me being a nervous wreck about SIDS after I read about it in a magazine when I was pregnant

I think as well as the risk of SIDS being increased at 6 weeks I imagine it would be a pain to keep getting up to feed and change and woud be enough to put me off.

I made it until 12 weeks with DD1 and 14 weeks with DD2 before the grunting and snuffling got too much. I was aware of the 6 months SIDS guideline as I was given a leaflet by the MW. But I needed to balance this with my increasing exhaustion.

It made no difference to the number of feeds per night but did mean DH could give a bottle so I could get a longer stretch of sleep.

If you're not comfortable moving her keep her in with you. Can DP go into her room if it's bothering him?

I can't remember exactly. Is that terrible.

I know my first was probably far too young. He was in there probably from four weeks plus. All that back and forth was nothing but drama, wide awake baby and wide awake me. Not to mention that I wasn't aware of the risk of SIDS.

DD and I co-slept for a good while. To somewhere between the four and six months stage. I eventually moved her to a cot by my bed. I think she was closer to one before she went in her own room for anything other than daytime naps.

It's all a blur.

If I were to do it again, I would co-sleep for six months, share a room for twelve months and probably have a monitor for another six to twelve months after that in their room. Dependent on their personality style of course. DD and I didn't co-sleep longer because she went off it and refused to sleep any more in my bed. She has never since been in my bed overnight without me feeling murderous and having to return her to her bed for poking my eye, ear, eye, ear, eye, ear etc etc

Am lazy, removing ds from our rooms means taking the cot apart.........who can be arsed - he snores just as much as his father so he must have cottoned onto the sleep breathing rythym now!

DD probably should have a monitor still, she's down a floor from me, can climb over her stair gate and is a magnet for trouble, but I have trouble sleeping and this is the compromise I have to make to get some sleep at night. Fortunately she only seems to remember she can climb her stair gate in the day time and I get up before she does in the morning. I need to bring her up a floor and swap her brother down, but moving furniture and decorating is beyond me at the moment.

My 12 WO DS is still in with us and i intend having him in until 6 months, or he outgrows the moses basket - whichever happens first. Husband also keeps banging on about moving him into his own room but i just tell him this is one thing i'm not prepared to compromise on. SIDS aside i just can't be bothered to haul my lazy arse out of bed and half way across the house to breast feed him at 3am!

both mine were in for 6-8 months. I wore ear plugs as they were noisy but still managed to hear them cry before dh! It made night feeds easier too.

DD moved permamently at about 4/5 months, when she outgrew the crib and had to go into the Big Girl Cot. However, she had the odd night in there in those months when we just needed her to settle - her room's above the washing machine and dishwasher. We'd set them both going overnight and the white noise would have her comatose in minutes!