Help/Advice please daughter age 10

[taken4granted]

Hi there Im after a bit of advice please - my daughter is now 10 yrs of age we split from her father 3 yrs ago and moved way as I couldnt afford to live nearby. She saw a health visitor for a while about her feelings (negative) for her father who said that she was OK. In he summer last year she decided to go vegetarian and initially she did really well eating lots of lovely healthy vegetarian meals however in the past couple of months she as refused to eat anything apart from Junk food. I know I souldnt get any in then she cant eat it but literally she wouldnt eat anything then - Her behaviour as a resul has deteriorated significantly as aresult - shes never been the easiest child since a toddler but her behaviour has gone ownhill rapidly so much so that I am in tears eery night when she is in bed as Im sick ofnagging at her to clean u do her homework eat food etc etc everything is an argument and Im at my wits end - I have booked appt with GP thi friday to discuss all of above does anyone have any good tips She is behind at school for her age and doesnt have any real friends either due to her behaviour however school doesnt sem too bothered at all. ANy help advice greatfully appreciated - I really am fed up with her bad behaviour and dont know what to do

Hi,

I'm a mother of 3, one of which is a 10 year old boy. My 2 eldest are girls and they have now grown up and left home...thank god!!! The girls, the same as you came from a split home. Dad did the fun stuff, I slogged away with the basics and no frills. Needless to say they both acted up.

Now my son who has never lived with his father, has reached that all important 10 year old point. He's moody defiant and charming all in the space of 5 minutes.

All I can say is be consistent, find ways around the junk food issue, find recipes where you can hide veg, there's a great book called Deceptively delicious by Jessica Seinfeld and she shows you how to hide veg in just about anything...a godsend in my house.

My son can have a major meltdown over just not playing a computer game when he wants, leading to lots of abusive shouting on his part, I've learned to let it wash over me, it's tough but venting on here can help. Feel free to chat if you need to. I'm happy to share any past experiences if the help.

Believe me a lot of this is a stage and hormones, they grow up so fast :)

Thanks for the advice - Ill Look up that book - shes currently with her father for a few days and she hasnt even bothered to call me to le me know ses got there safe - sometimes I jst feel like saying youre obviously having such a wonderful time bloody well stay there and let him see the real daughter he has and she would have a very rude awakening as well. At least my dogs love me!!

Oh taken4granted I hear your pain! My DD1 is now 11 and has been a bit of a mare since she turned 10. Take note of the times she's worse and see if there's a pattern? My DD1 has a pattern pretty much like PMT!!! She doesn't have her periods yet but my Mum seems to think she will be a bit better behaved when they start? Try to cast your mind back to when you were her age, I do it to try and understand my DD and it often helps me to take that deep breath, brush off the I wish you weren't my Mum comment and carry on! My DD1 doesn't have any contact with her father but has a step dad who lets her step brother away with murder which fuels her hormonal fire! Good luck and