Nursery and 'Tantrums'

[RubyF]

Hi

I wondered if anyone has some advice for me please. I think I know the answer to my question already as it seems like common sense, but here goes.

I have a 1 year old who has just started nursery last week as I went back to work. He will be going for 3 days in the week. I know it's very early days however I have noticed that on Thurs and Fri, his behaviour at home has changed. Not drastically, but he has started getting really frustrated and kicking and stamping his feet and really crying over things that didn't cause him that much problem before. The nursery have reported that each day last week he has improved in his eating and sleeping there and seemed to be getting a bit more comfortable with it all.

Can anyone who has sent their littrle ones to nursery tell me if they expreienced this problem? The other thing is that every time I went for my shower on Thurs, Fri, Sat and today, he has started to cry even tho he has actually been in the bathroom with me. I think I have tried to deal with this in particular by just singing to him or talking and he has been better this morning.

I 'm dreading this week again now because I'm thinking how will be this week!

Many thanks

I know that ut's all a period of change for him but I guess I was looking for a bit of reassurance.

Oh bless, he is prob just readjusting and needing a bit more reassurance and attention when you are with him. He is prob more tired as well as I know when my dd started nursery it almost took a couple of days to recover!!

I am sure he will settle down soon.

Thanks, I really hope so. I think I'm maybe expecting too much from sucha little person. I forgot to mention that for the last three weeks he has had a cold and cough too which cannot help!

I would think he is probably tired after 3 days at nursery. My dds used to do full days on Wednesday and Thursdays and were often out of sorts on a Friday.

When you go for your shower perhaps he is a tiny bit confused as he is not yet used to the new routine? i.e. he thinks you are about to set off to nursery?

Good luck, he will soon get used to the "new" routine. If I have been away for the dds for a few days with work (I work shifts so not always here at bedtime etc) I find it helps to have a bit of a quieter day the first day I am home with them (especially with my younger child).

Yeah, I get this with my 2 year old. It's kind of normal- their world as they knew it has changed and what they thought was certain isn't. They are getting used to the new "rules".

3 days is a long time to be away from Mummy when you're not used to it, but hopefully he will adjust and settle in to the routine soon.

The cold and cough will be a big part of it too. DD is much more needy when a bit under par with something like this. Just give him lots of cuddles and attention when he's with you and hopefully he'll settle, get rid of the cold and be back to his sturdier self.

Thanks for your reassurance and advice. Especially the idea of having a quiet day on the Thurs when there is no nursery and no work!Let's see how it goes.