7 month DD seems really upset with me

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I have a 7th month old DD and her Dad and I left her for the weekend with my Dad, so we could go to Devon and sort stuff out for our wedding. It seemed better to leave her at home than drag her 4 hours in the car.

I missed her desperately and was rushing back to see her. When we picked her up she seemed very confused and bit grizzly. She'd missed her lunch time sleep, so I put it down to tiredness.

But she has been crying on and off all afternoon and evening and especially it seems to be me that triggers her off, when she wanted me more than anyone before we went away.

I'm really worried now and feel terrible for leaving her. My breast are sore and swollen and she doesn't want to feed any more and I just hate seeing her upset and am missing her chatting and laughing and playing. I am hoping after a good nights sleep she'll but ok, but worried that it'll be the same tomorrow. I feel awful!! Anyone else get any experienced this?

don't worry, she'll be ok. make sure she doesn't have a temperature and simply reassure her.

she's missed you, that's all.
good luck

I can't remember the technical words for it, but its to do with bonding - perversely the more upset they are after you've been away it is actually because the child is well bonded with you!
It will pass - she does still love you.

Thanks a lot!! It's been a hard afternoon and lots of tears from both. She settled to her dad after a bit, but just cried every time she saw me. I guess my breast feeding days are over, which is sad, but I will be happy to just have my lovely baby back again!! I hope it will be better when she wakes up in the morning.

dont give up on bf - she will take it again i am sure. i gave up at around this stage after i went to work but wish i'd persevered (but only if you want to, dont add that guilt to everything else!)

Yes Beamur is dead right about the bonding! Loads and loads of cuddles, keep offering the breast (only if you want to of course) and generally just keep her close and she should start cheering up soon. Sounds to me like you are a lovely mum, cos you wouldn't care so much otherwise

Thanks ladies, she BFed with vigour in the morning and all was forgiven, after a few hours she was back to her normal self and it was lovely to have her back!