6mnth old gets hysterical when dad puts her to bed

[newmumnik]

My 6mnth old has suddenly developed a severe dislike of being put to bed by her dad!! In the morning and at the weekends shes fine with him but after 7.30 she gets hysterical when he picks her up, sobs in the bath with him and wont let him put her to bed. Part of me knows its just temper and I should leave them to it but is it worth her getting so upset just before bed? Has anyone else had this problem and how did u deal with it, is it just a phase she will grow out of or do we have to be cruel to be kind as the saying goes and persevere till she gets over it. Any ideas would be greatly welcomed!!!!!!!!

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hi, we ahd this problem on and off and i think dp felt a bit left out, we just let it go and let her have mammy,i still am the one to put her to bed, sge's 2.6 but still goes to sleep in my arms!!(i keep intending to change her routine at bedtime), anyway, we find that when we froewarn her(i.e-on a weekend"daddy is getting up to you tonight/tomorrow morning ),then she's fine. i think they must all go through clingy stages.Personally i wouldn't push it as it might get to be a big deal to her. Good luck

Just a phase. We have been through exactly the same with both dd and ds. If your Dh feels a bit rejected, just tell him it will be his turn to do everything next. They seem to switch between "mummy-phases" and "daddy-phases".
Why don't you both put her to bed together for a while?

my ds started getting a pathalogical hate of dp giving him a bottle at bed time at around 4 months, consequently I honstly can not remember the last bottle dp gave him, and he's nearly 9 months now!

I would keep trying to get you dp to put her to bed, unless you want to be doing it all;0

I think the idea of putting her to bed together for a while is a good one and you can fade out, just popping downstairs to get her toy or whatever. I think if you are both around at bedtime the goal should be to share it or you will end up doing everything and she won't tolerate anyone else when you really need her to. ALthough, it is bound to be just a phase it could last for a year or more!

hate to put a downer on all your fab advice but my ds is 2 and 1/2 and if i am in the house (like every bleeding night almost! )then he absolutely won't let his dad do bath, or story or night night kiss.............
any suggestions gals?

thanx for the advice girls, hopefully it's just a phase and she is getting better but will try putting her down (sorry! bad choise of words!!!!!!) together for a while and see if i can sneak out when shes nearly asleep, will keep u posted!