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My son is so badly behaved- even becoming violent

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frazzle26 · 11/02/2011 22:48

My 8 year old son has always been a difficult child. Very defiant, tantrums etc. When he doen't get his own way it's just awful. He's even starting to get violent. The other day he pushed me into the fridge and last week he pinned me to the sofa. Obviously it was quite easy to get him off but the intention was there. I'm only 5 foot and he's already about 4 foot 2 so it's not going to be long until he's bigger than me and i'm scared that he could hurt me.

We're currently seeing a psychcologist. She thinks that some of his problems stem from the fact that he worries about me having epilepsy and the fact that his father barely contacts him. She is trying to work through this with him.

The school are very concerned about him too. They say he is very disruptive. Calling out etc and refusing to stay in his seat. The psychologist went and observed him at school and although he was fairly good on that day she said that the class itself was one of the worst she'd seen in a long time. Very disorganised and a lot of the children seemed to have problems. For someone like my son, this is hardly going to help.

There is a meeting planned with a load of professionals, head teacher, educational psychologists etc. i will also attend. to discuss him and to try and decide on an action plan.

My son also soils himself most days. He's been doing it for a few years.

not sure what i'm hoping to gain from posting on here. guess i just wanted to see if anyone had similar stories. what happened?? did it get any better??

I'm at the end of my tether. Getting very depressed. I'm a single parent and only have my mum for support.

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niminypiminy · 11/02/2011 23:18

Didn't want you to go unanswered. Sounds like things are really draining and worrying for you. You might find some help over on the special needs board for dealing with your meeting (sounds as if it is a Team Around the Child (TAC) meeting).

I've been on the receiving end of violence from my son and it's awful and shaming and scary -- but you are not alone. Again there are lots of people who post on the special needs board who have been through this.

I've been dealing with soiling on a daily basis for quite a while and I know how it gets you down. You may know about them, but if you don't have a look at the eric web site, as they are the experts in everything to do with childhood continence. Their helpline is superb.

purplepidjin · 11/02/2011 23:23

Another with no really useful advice, but I would suggest reposting in Special needs - there will be people there with strategies for helping your son and you manage his behaviour. Also, as he's seeing a Psych, I assume this was a referral through your GP, then paediatrician? If so, it would be worth referring back and possibly considering referral for Statutory Assessment to decide if your son's needs can be met in school with outside provision etc.

HTH

frazzle26 · 12/02/2011 08:27

Thanks, will move my post over there. Yes it is a TAC meeting just couldn't remember the name.

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