clingy 3.5 year old

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DS is my first so have no idea if this is normal.

He wont allow ANYONE to do any thing for him other than me, not his dad or any other member of his close family.

This includes turning on lights, helping him with going to the toilet and getting drinks.

This might sound normal but its got so bad he wets him self at nursery and get dehydrated.

He starts school in September and im really worried this will continue.

My ds is like this and he was as bad as not letting anyone take him the toilet at playschool only me.So he had to wear nappies for a while.

My ds doesn't let his dad put his clothes on, or put him to bed, get him a drink or anything and it is hard work.

My dh says I have to stop giving into him though, I no he is right and some things I just say no daddy has to do it!

I guesse the more others do, the less he will need you to do for him (here's hoping) so he can become less reliant on you.

But I am in a similar situation and my dd was never like this with me so it is all new to me.But if you are still worried about him getting worse maybe see the health visitor or gp or something.They may have more tips.

Good luck

The thing is if i don't do it he will just go without.

Hes been at nursery for a year and a half, but the problem has just started.

How can i send him to school if he may decide not to drink anything for 6 hours?

GP would be a good idea, thank you.

sounds to me like a classic power struggle .my 2 yr old does this and i just have to be firm and not give in.let other people do stuff.do not give in. he will not starve/dehydrate himself to any dangerous level.
he is just being a tyrant and you need to put your foot down imho.
i am aware how hard it is to ignore though!

That is a shame, has something happened to make him like that?

It is ok for a child to be clingy sometimes but not if it affecting everything he does.And not drinking and eating unless you are there to give it him is a problem.I do hope you can sort it soon though.:)

I cant think of anything that has triggered it.

Just thought it was an age thing.

Thank you all for the advice, will try and hold my ground.