It's mine!

[Atomant]

DD is almost 20 months old, she's at private nursery 3 days a week, one day with grandparents & I'm home 1 day plus weekend with both
me & DH. I know sharing is difficult at this age but does anyone have any advice to help DD understand sharing?

Nursery say she's fine there, they say the 'it's mine' thing is really common & frequent in her current room but they say the don't really have an issue with DD in this respect.

At home she just doesn't know what to do if anyone touches her stuff. If we have friends with other children round who even glance at her toys, she's a wreck. She just bursts into tears and say 'it's mine' she's really crying proper tears and wanders over to me arms out stretched sobbing her little heart out. I understand that's it's different in her own environment but i would like for friends children to be comfortable when they visit!

I've tried to explain sharing and showed her me & DH sharing books, toys, food etc but it's always the same result she's so upset.

She doesn't normally cry much at all so it's completely out of character for her.

Please help me help her!

Honestly? Just make sure she does share, even when she doesn't want to. Then cuddle her until she gets over it. It'll happen for a while but as long as you handle it correctly she will grow out of this very devestated phase.

I can hear it's hard to watch her so upset, but in the long term it's worth whethering these outbursts, and much kinder too. Noone wants to hang out with a 6 year old who still has a massive hang up with sharing. Nip it in the bud. And don't worry about the other mummies having to put up with the tears and tantrums, it always sounds worse and louder when it's your own child! So keep up the play dates for lots of social practice.

Good luck!

this is REALLY common, and she will grow out of it, you just have to stand your ground and don't give in and give her whatever she wants.
You just keep doing what you're doing. shes still really young and just make sure you comfort her but explain firmly that she has to share. it will pass.. my two ds still dont share as nicely as i'd like..they are 3.6 and 2. we have a rule of as soon as they loose interest in a toy then its fair game for the other.
Hth x

She will grow out of it as long as you don't pander to her. DOn't be harsh either because she can't help it - it's her age.