How do i get 7wk old out of my bed?!

[luckykitty]

My daughter will only sleep in bed with me, DP is on the sofa so at least we all actually get some sleep.

She screams and screams if anyone else is holding her until she gets me back- i had severe pre-eclampsia and had to have emergency section at 38wks - could this be why she is clingy and angry?!

She will fall asleep on me (only me) upright on my chest in the day but as soon as I put her down, in anything - basket, cot, pram, she wakes up and screams until shes purple. Shes then fine when i pick her up.

I want her to sleep in her own space and be happy to do so but i dont know how to do it - should i try with moses basket or go straight for crib?
she is BF and will (sometimes!) go for 5 hours in the night between feeds, she doesnt usually have a dunmmy unless she is angry but then its hit and miss.

I cant bare to think of her lying there screaming as she is so tiny and clingy, please advise and give me a good kick up the arse too. Thank you.

EMCS could be why your daughter is struggling - my DD was EMCS at 41+ wks after I had been in advanced labour for 3 hours and she struggled. I used Cranial osteopathy which certainly helped in the short term but as she was then diagnosed with silent reflux and started on meds i'm not sure of the long term with that.....

Do you think she seems in discomfort at all? I was really surprised to find that my little one had so many of the symptoms of reflux - not being able to lie down, wanting to be kept more upright or lying on my chest being one of them. Realise that this may not be the case for you but may be worth ruling out!

Good luck xxx

Both mine were EMCS, DS2 was a crash section, a total nightmare at first, would cry and cry until picked up but we decided that we had to nip this in the bud and I couldnt let him control us.

If she stops crying as soon as picked up and is totally settled then I wouldnt think there is an medical issue.

I did the cruel thing of moving the cot into the living room, closing all the doors and did controlled crying and after a few days it worked. Sorry that upsets so many but in the long term it works and have two extremely happy, settled, good sleepers.

I wouldnt think that the section makes an emotional scars. Some babys are clingy but its up to you where you go from here.

Someone gave me a great tip that worked for DS1 - use a fleecy blanket under the baby when you put them down as it's nice and soft and really warm. Also (slighty weird but worked) - keep a muslin close to your skin, leave it near them when you put them down so the smell of you is near.

With ds2 - he was my third and last DC so I just accepted that he would only be a baby for a very short time and so pretty much held him/had him in a sling for the whole of the first 6 months. DH and I slept in 1/4 of the bed, ds2 had the other 3/4. He was a very happy content baby, I was a happy, non stressed mum, the house was a tip but so what? Hold her and enjoy her, it won't be long until she's running away from you!

My dd was an emcs and I think the birth (which was extrememly stressful) did effect her. Have you tried swaddling? I found this was the only way dd would sleep well in her own. Also gently easing yourself into a routine might help, my dd seemed much happier when she knew what was coming next iyswim?!

Def get your little one checked out for reflux as it might explain why she prefers being upright and I would invest in some crainopathy as well.