ds 9, where´s he gone?

[tigermother]

what´s all this about hormone surges at 9 for boys? what sort? does it explain aggressive and over-emotional behaviour? my previously laidback ds is now constantly cross, tearful, and railing against the world but especially us. His only interests are electronic-related and his behaviour is addict-like if he´s told he can´t play (sulking, shouting), or that he may be able to (can´t do enough, as long as the ´fix´ is soon). In fact the only time he´s nice is when he thinks he might be able to play on the laptop or wii. He does lots of sport, is an excellent reader, but any other tips?

I watch this thread with interest - I have ds1 age 11, ds2 age 9 & ds3 age 7. Hormones are not our friends...

i'm watching with interest too

Me too, my ds was 9 last week, the Wii is our weapon. Removal of "screen time" is the only power I have over him at the moment!

As a mother of a 14 year old, it does get better! Also for you hopefully the earlier they start the sooner they get reasonable again.

We still have moments of utter irrationality but I can see light between these moments, even enough to be able to think that last weekends out burst and the request for more new trousers (too short) are related.

Good luck!

We are planning a trouser buying trip! Ds has outgrown all his school trousers again (since Christmas)!

I was just getting used to dealing with the 11 yo dd1's hormones! I wasn't expecting them in ds quite yet!

Does anyone else's ds literally fall to the ground in frustration when you say its not time for tea/Wii time or is time for homework/piano practice/tidying up time? Ds seems to have a knee dysfunction at the moment that kicks in as soon as I ask him to do anything he doesn't like!

Sounds too familiar.

mummytime, i thought 14 was the bad time, and up to, say, 12, was good. I have planned things, like the next 10 years, around this belief! But 14 is good, 9 bad? This is new to me. Thank you for that glimmer in the dark ´the earlier they start, the sooner they get reasonable again´, which is a comfort. But this hormone lark, it doesn´t mean that he´s going into puberty, does it? Not sure I can cope with that. Weegiemum, yes, or a heartfelt "Oh no" tears, and much wailing and "you always ......."
I am considering stopping his guitar lessons as although he says he likes them, he won´t practise, unless I threaten him with no electronic stuff. Even brushing his teeth, which he won´t do properly, is a pantomime now as getting him in a headlock (my dentist advised this) to do it every now and again is becoming impossible as he is almost as tall as I am. There must be an easier way (not the teeth - I have given up on that).