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Is this normal behaviour for a 3 year old?

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ACMDowding · 09/02/2011 14:16

I feel a bit Blush asking this. I did childminding for years then took a break, and should be used to and know what 3 year olds are like.

Anyway, this one is a child I childmind. and he talks. A lot. But it is often the same phrase or question over and over and over again, even if he has been answered. he also repeatedly copies phrases that my own Dses say, or other children do, and also mimics their movements. it is especially bad at toddler group, in fact I thought about stopping going. We all sit around on the floor and the children play. Sometimes he will follow one child and repeat what they say (Or mimic their movements), other times, if I am chatting to mums or other CMs there, he comes over and starts talking
example, today it was " my names x". So I said yes it is, you're a clever boy you know your name"
"My name's x"
"my names x"
"my names x"
Even in response to different things i said, or the other adult said, he just kept repeating over and over. Even if I say "oh I am talking to y's mummy just now" he doesn't stop he just keeps repeating louder and louder, until he starts saying something else, which he then repeats a lot. I left there early as the mum came to pcik him up
When I picked him up from nursery today, the mananger said "Can you tell his mum he seems to have talkitis today"
Anyway, is there any distraction, or change of habit techniques i can try, as it is starting to get to the older mindees and my Dses (who, yes I know are older and should be able to handle it, but it is constant and they don't get a break unless they move to another room)

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vintageteacups · 09/02/2011 16:30

Does sound unusual but could be a way of getting attention.

Could you chat to his parents and ask if he does the same with them?

Does he have older siblings and cannot get a word in edgeways perhaps?

I would speak to parents before you do anything else.

hillyhilly · 09/02/2011 16:33

My 3yo DS only tends to do this if what he's saying doesn't get my attention, currently its "Mummeeee, look what happened" over and over again, his capacity to repeat himself amazes (and annoys) me sometimes, but unlike your mindee, he does stop once I respond.
Not sure if that was in anyway helpful!!

TotalChaos · 09/02/2011 16:44

Rings alarm bells re sn to me tbh. Sounds like echolalia to me. Its a stepping stone towards proper communication for kids struggling with language development, they want to say something but have trouble thinking of appropriate words so just latch on to what they just heard. U shld be able to get advice from local council pre school inclusion if it is sn related behavior.

Also kids with echolalia can be behind with understanding of language

ACMDowding · 09/02/2011 22:22

Is it posible tourettes?

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BialystockandBloom · 09/02/2011 23:24

What totalchaos said - def sounds like echolalia. Are you concerned about any other aspect of his behaviour or development? Would find a way of (sensitively) discussing it with his parents tbh.

ACMDowding · 10/02/2011 08:08

There are one or two other things, but they aren't huge .
1 is that we have this routine, every time we go out, I put his coat and shoes on him, and on the baby I childmind. I then sit the older child on the bottom step of my stairs, while I go to front door with baby and put him in buggy. The whole time the child can see me, I am never out of his sight. yet every single time he cries his eyes out because he thinks he's being left behind. Even though we do the same thing at least 3/4 times a day, 5 days a week and have been since July
He is fab with colours,counting etc yet cannot even get his coat on and despite me taking a lot of time to show him he just stands there with it, with a baffled look on his face as though he doesn't know what to do with it.

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ACMDowding · 10/02/2011 08:14

His motor skills aren't great, he trips up a lot and walks into things, or onto things - the baby was sitting on teh floor the other day and he literally just walked into and over him - stood on him and didn't even seem to notice. He also seems to jump and climb a lot - not climb high things but will stand on the toy box, or if there is a car on teh floor he'll stand on it, just stand there on top of it.

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ACMDowding · 10/02/2011 08:19

and snorts and grunts a lot too

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lukewarmmama · 10/02/2011 08:32

I'm in no way an expert or even moderately well informed, but I would be thinking maybe possible ASD? Not sure how you go about talking to the parents about this though, but you definitely should as earliest intervention = best outcome and all that.

lukewarmmama · 10/02/2011 08:38

You could ask on the sn forum for advice on how to list the issues best, and practical suggestions for where the parents can go next. Better than just leaving the parents worried with no practical focus on what to do about it maybe.

ACMDowding · 10/02/2011 13:19

I have tried to raise the issue with the parents, but they jsut say "oh yes he's the same with us, he's a f&^$£"£ nightmare, he is such hard work because he talks all the time"
They don't seem to know or indeed want to know, about it.

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TotalChaos · 10/02/2011 16:00

Oh dear, maybe try again and say you have a friend whose kid was similar and speech therapy helped?

It is wearing dealing with echolalia, one thing that can work is you varying the sentence slightly, eg if he says red car red car you show him a toy train and say red train!

I wld still contact early years inclusion to ask for general advice on a no name of child basis.

lukewarmmama · 10/02/2011 17:45

Did you say he was also going to nursery? Maybe talk to them about their thoughts?

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