Clingyness after starting nursery - advice please

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I know the above is pretty obvious given the change happening to DS (1 year) as I'm now back at work, first week for us both.
But interested in the best way to help him.

He's a v sociable little boy, has stayed with other family members during his first year, even overnight once or twice. Seems happy at the nursery, which we are v pleased with, he's bonded well with his key person during the week of settling in.
He happily sees us leave without any problems and is more interested in the toys or other children that us when we are there. No tears whatsoever.
I'm not suprised that he's pretty clingy with us in the mornings and evenings as things are different but what works well to reassure them. Apart from giving up work and being a mum fulltime....goes to buy lottery ticket

Any advice appreciated
Thanks

He can pick up on any worry you're feeling so you have to try to ooze confidence & relax him via your behaviour. Be as cool as you can when dropping him off - show him literally how calm you are & he'll mimic you (eventually). There is literally a connection 'tween mum and child so you have to act as you wish them to follow. HTH.

Thanks
DP drops him off, confidently he says....
But only day 3 so DS is bound to have rumbled something is up, regardless of how interesting he finds nursery
cheers

Power through & you'll both be fine. Just shows he loves you!

Turns out he also has some viral bug (which I now have) so suspect that contributed to it. Much better today. Phew

My daughter was in nursery from age 5 months, and would have phases of clingyness. Sometimes it would be alot, and sometimes not at all. She actually loved nursery, and still does, which made me feel so much more happy when leaving her there at 8am.
Illness does make a child more clingy - Even now, I have to have DD in my lap for hours when she is feeling ill.

Also, good luck with the bug thing! I had a permanent cold for the first year of going back to work, as DD would get everything and pass it on to me! Now she's 3 and she got a bug about a week ago after 1 whole year - so its going to be tough, but brilliant for your and his immune system! He wont be having many sick days when he gets to school too .

I think just time will help, as he gets used to it, and understanding, ie that he only goes away from you at certain times and that you aren't going to disappear at any minute.

But to help this along I'd just be reassuring normally, let him go at his own pace at toddler groups, new places, etc rather than pushing him to be more independent. And I also think it's really important to make sure you never sneak off, make sure you say goodbye every single time you leave him - including when you leave the room to e.g. go to the toilet, although you could have a different key phrase e.g. "Back in a minute" - this reassures him that he will always get notice when you are leaving and the clinging out of a fear that you might disappear when he's not watching will be lessened.

Of course it could just be the illness making him clingy so I wouldn't worry - it sounds like he's doing great! :)

Thanks everyone. He's back to the happy child he was and I'm loosing the baby weight with this bug. Sorry TMI. Winners all round.
We'd luckily (or not) escaped any illness for his first year so I realise I'd no idea what he would be like when ill.
Goes to buy multi vits