Started school a month ago, total behaviour change.

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Just wondering if this is normal.

DD started school in jan. Shes loving it, but at home... well.

Shes gone super clingly. Constantly wanting to sit on me, or stroke me, or touch me, or sing to me, or just follow me about. getting me to do things for her that she was doing herself, ie getting dressed, have a wee etc...Its starting to get a bit much.

We are also having quite a lot of full on temper tantrums, which i know are because she is tired.

Ive just assumed this is normal, and to sort of go along with it, while encourage her to get back to being a bit more independent, that maybe she just needs a bit of reassureance from starting school. My mother says im doing totally the wrong thing and am pandering to her and shouldnt have any of it.

so?

She might just miss the time she had with you before, going to school can change children, and change them in different ways.No child is the same, some become more independant due to going to school.My ds started a playgroup and is a lot better, he always been clingy but not as bad.

But some children go the opposite way, nothing wrong in that really.But if you are busy, make a time where you both sit and have cuddles and kisses and talk about her day.Obviously you can't have her hanging off you but if she wants to follow you round whilst you do your jobs I can't see nothing wrong with that.

I would not like to push my children away, that could make her worse.

well, thats what i thought.
She was really really independent before, but seems to have regressed quite a bit.
Shes still being really independent at school, but at home just wants to hold my hand the whole time.

Thats normal, and very common.

She wants reassurance that though she's out of sight, she's not out of mind; so lavish her with cuddles/attention.
She's so little , and she has a lot to face which may make her insecure for a while.

Give her time, and she'll soon go back to her usual self.

it is just a little odd as i worked before, so she has been with a nursery or childminder, and the hours away arent actually that much different.

i dont mind at all, i think that if shes showing she needs me more at the momment , its because she does.

And that she will be fine and back to herself in a short while.

We had dinner at mums the other week and she was crying because she wanted to sit next to me. everyone ( rest of family) made her stay where she was, as not to give into her.
45 mins of constant crying and she was next to me, i dont see why she just couldnt have been sat next to me to start with.

i think ill just have to say to everyone, that at the momment, thats how it is, please dont make a big deal of it.

Do what you want she is your daughter and if you want her sitting next to you then tell your family that she can.

Giving in to certain demands is different from showing your child that you are there for them, why should she not be allowed to sit by you at the dinner table you are her mom.