DS wont be comforted by me at in laws

[Mammie81]

My 9 week DS just will not be comforted by me at my in laws. He will calm down instantly with anyone else.

At his cousins birthday party today he started to get touchy around his bedtime, and whenever he came to me, he just started pulling my hair, headbutting me, going red in the face, the lot. I know DP's family are only trying to be helpful but asking if I need help in front of everyone makes me feel undermined

We dont have this at home, its normally me who calms him when no one else can. At my inlaws I do feel a pressure to perform IYSWIM, as they can be very pushy and judgemental.

Im quite down about it really, does anyone else experience the same?

Firstly well done on making it through the first 9 weeks!!
motherhood is wonderful but often very hard and if you are feeling under pressure to be the perfect mum (does she really exsist??) Its prob your stress that lo is picking up on,
They are very intuitive and if you are feeling tense then your DS will be the first to pick up on it, have you ever noticed that if your DH/P, friend, collegue is in a bad mood it soon rubs off on those around them? babies are just the same.
Dont allow yr in laws to make you feel this way, im sure you are doing wonderfully and that you have a otherwise happy DS.
Both of my children would react to my moods when they were small ( still do infact!)

I reckon he's maybe picking up some stressed vibes from you. I know it's wrong to compare dogs and babies but my lovely furry friend turns into a whining ball of stress at my Mother's place. Needless to say, my Mum and I don't really get along.

I guess something worth trying is to genuinely not give a flying f**k about your in-laws opinions - granted that's a LOT easier said than done!