6 year old and tantrums

[stilltired]

I have a beautiful 6 year old daughter who is having regular tantrums. She has had 5 this last month and they are anything but pleasant. They usually happen early evening but can start at other times and over the smallest of things, normally when you don't expect it. She shouts, laughs, scratches and makes it impossible to ignore. It usually peters out after 90 minutes and she apologizes the next day but it is exhausting. I have ordered the 123 magic book on effective discipline but do not know what to do at the moment until the magic solution arrives at my door. She has been ill with a virus for most of the month but I do not think it is that. She is an only child but incredibly stubborn. Any suggestions on how to stop or deal with it would be great? It has been suggested we meet with her teacher but I am not sure.

I dont have any advice I'm afraid, just sympathy. we have been doing the 123 magic which worked well at first, but his tantrums have increased again in frequency and I'm at my wits end. he is perfect at school.

I have a six year old daughter who had a troubled start in life (illness and adoption) and was having regular tantrums - we're now down to about once a week or even once a fortnight these days. She is extremely well-behaved at school and with other people.

Things I have found that help: keep after-school times really calm and stress free. Cut back on activities, allow her to unwind and be a bit babyish if she wants to be. Give her a nutritious snack as soon as she comes out of school and have tea fairly early. Have a nice bedtime routine, in the same way as you would for a much younger child. If she does start having a tantrum, stay calm and let it wear itself out rather than trying to punish or control. Lots of cuddles afterwards. These are things that have helped me.

Quite a lot is asked of six-year-olds at school. They're no longer the youngest, they're being expected to achieve, they have to negotiate all the playground stuff etc. If home can be a real haven for them I think it helps them weather this stage.

Good luck xx