Has anybody else had a 6 year olddaughter got through a nightmare tantrummy stage?

[MilaMae]

If so any tips???

We're talking major tantrums over buggar all when I pick her up from school or when things don't go exactly her way and she doesn't care who is in earshot .

Being hungry,tired or poorly makes it worse.

She never gets away with it ie gets sent to her bedroom,ds taken away, or not allowed out to play etc. Always has a rollicking.

My friend says it's a stage but everybody else's dd seems to be perfect angels.

Apparently she's a well behaved angel at school,quiet etc(I check with her teacher). It's just me she's a shouty mare for. She can also say hurtful things to me and doesn't seem to care.

How long does this go on for and why?I have 2 other boys and they were never like this.If it is a just a stage I want it to end-pronto!!!!!

Apologies for the mistakes in title,she's prowling around and I didn't want her to read it.

It is a stage and she will get through.

Only problem is that once she does get through this phase another will start.
Being a mum is bloody hard work huh

Is it,are you sure I haven't got this for the rest of my life? Why ?????? And why aren't all 6 year old girls like this?

How do I handle it because if I have one more do outside school in front of all the other mums with perfectly behaved dds I shall die.

My 5 year old is much the same. The slightest thing not going her way will start her off. She's been like this since she as about 2 and a half. There are particular issues that really tip her over the edge - clothes that she deems as 'hurting' her in some way, seatbelts, coats being too 'big and puffy', her younger brother saying anything she disagrees with, her hair not looking how she wants it to. To be fair to her, recently she's been trying a lot harder not to let all these things upset her. But she has such a terrible, explosive temper. She totally loses(sp?) it and when I try to calmly tell her that she needs to calm down, she gets worse, tells me that she doesn't care, that I'm a rubbish mum etc. It's so hard. She's a good kid really (perfectly behaved at school apparently) but I don't know what to do to help her through this stage of her life. I'm worried that she'll never learn to control her temper. What if she can't make friends as she gets older because of it? I even get to the point where I worry that maybe she'll become bipolar - OTT I know. But I feel like I'm failing her for not knowing how to help her. I can't give you answers MilaMae, just my heartfelt sympathy. As I type she is having a huge paddy because her brother is playing a recorder 'too loud'. She's hit him, snatched the recorder, thrown it across the table and flounced off like she's the injured party.

Hairbrushing is a nightmare with my dd however gently I do it it ends up as a stressfest. She can be really awkward too. She's at her worst when I pick her up from school.

It's the lack of being able to reason with her,just like a 2 year old and the spiteful loud, shouty arguing I hate. She can be lovely.She used to be lovely most of the time,a real character everybody loved to be around.

Have googled it to see if it's a hormone surge(if girls get those) or something but can't find anything. Boys are sooooo not like this.

On a more positive not I was 10X worse apparently and my friend has a lovely dd a year older,she says her dd was just as bad(hope she's not just being nice).

This is so ringing alarm bells about my dd2 who's 7 - clothes hurting, shoes too tight, hairbrushing, I said one of her spellings twice! DD1 was never like that but I'm starting to think this is half the problem - I try to compare/reason why this is happening.

Couldtryharder I don't think you're OTT I often think this too, but when everything has calmed down I tell myself off for thinking it.

I don't know what the answer is, I've thought about taking her to the GP (when she's in a rage she often tells me she's half deaf?) but what ould I say?

She seems popular at school and loves going, it's just at home seems unhappy.

Punishments don't seem to work - she does treats it as if it's my fault she's missing out.

I do try to explain when she's calmed down that it's upsetting when we argue, and when she's in a rage I can't reach her to bring her back - which sometimes helps for a few days and then we're back to square one.

I think we need to be strong and look for the positives.

OMG! MilaMae, CouldTryHarder, & Anushka, my DD1 (almost 7) is EXACTLY the same way. I've reached the end of my tether it seems. I don't understand how a girl who is so loved and given so much goodness can be so negative, so hateful when she doesn't think things have gone EXACTLY as they should. She's a perfect student: good grades and conduct. Add me to her world and it's like setting off explosives. I want to enjoy my daughter's youth, have fun and laugh with her, but that seems so rare. It makes me very sad.

On the flip-side, I have DD2 (2.5) who is the polar opposite. DD1's tantruming started at 2 but so far DD2 has better emotional control and she's happy all the time. She enjoys life in ways DD1 still hasn't grasped.

Both my DDs are my WORLD!! I just want to find a way for DD1 to be happier and nicer to me.