Getting DS3 to settle for more than 2 mins with anyone other than me??

[CardyMow]

I know he's only very very little (born Monday afternoon), but ds3 is, erm, very attached to me. He will happily sleep on my lap, but won't go down in a bouncy chair or even settle in DP's arms. We are co-sleeping, but I've done so with my other 3 dc's and not had a problem, I've always been able to lie them down on their mats, in DP's arms, or in their chair for 10-15 mins at a time. But DS3 won't have any of it.

I have 3 older dc that need me too, and he won't give me ANY time apart from him. DP is trying his best, but ds3 screams after less than 2 minutes off me. I can barely get a wash or brush my hair/ teeth!

Will it just get better as he gets older, or is he destined to be extremely clingy?

have you tried swaddling him? It was the only way dd2 would settle away from me, dd1 didnt like it.

Also could you try a muslin square or something like that that you have had near you for while so it smell like you that might help him to settle while hes away from you for a little bit.

He does have a muslin square that he likes to hug, doesn't seem to help that much though. He hates being swaddled, which is a shock to me as my older 3 dc settled brilliantly when swaddled.

do you have a sling? If he likes that at least you might be able to get things done while hes on you.

Apart from that I think it might just be a case of waiting untill hes a bit older I know it was with dd1 who wouldnt be put down untill she was 6 months, at least with her she was the only one. She didnt like a sling so when I needed to put her down I just put her in her carry cot and ran.

I'm not allowed to use a sling as I have epilepsy, so it's not safe. Poo. He also seems to have day and night mixed up, and is having his 'big' sleep in the day when I can't sleep, and little 'catnaps' through the night.

Maybe try him in sling on your DP? My DD was as you have described your new DS and was seriously unhappy when held by anyone else but me or when put down. It was hard going, but we did find that she would eventually settle better with him if in the sling on him. Also if she had something that smelt of me, or more specifically my milk. As she got bigger the swing helped though she still cried when put in it intially. Am due DC2 in a couple of weeks time and have been very worried that they will be the same, so though its not help to you whatsoever I am slightly reassurred that your other 3 DC's were very different! hope things ease up, rubbish for you that you can't use a sling yourself. Oh, and DD was completely nocturnal, but that did gradually sort itself out. Really hope things improve more quickly for you, must be really tough just now.