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At the end of our tether!

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coolma · 28/01/2011 18:50

I really don't know what to do with dd5. She is a horror. Brief background. I have a dd21 and a ds11, DD 21 has left home so it is the four of us. DD5 was born with a slight disabilty - something I have too and I guess, no I know I have spoilt her as I feel desperately sad and guilty that I had unwittingly passed it on. It's nothing life threatening but will affect her life in one way or another as she grows up. Anyway, since she has been able to speak she has run rings around me, and just lately, she has been awful. She is rude, unpleasant, kicks, stamps, spits, tell us we are 'evil parents' and we have been told by her teachers that she has been bullying other girls. She's very tall and fairly bright which may have something to do with the attitude at school. It really is heartbreaking. I feel like a floundering first time parent! The other thing she does is refuse to sleep in her own bed. She pads through to us anytime during the night and however many times we take her back she will scream and shout and simply refuse. it's too exhausting to argue! She's now taken to getting into bed with ds who is the most wonderful patient litle lad who will take her attitude and deal with it 'for you and daddy, mummy'. DH is strict with her but she just cries (very loudly) when he talks to her about her behaviour. I feel so rubbish - I have two other children for goodness sake, I should be able to deal with this!

argh. Has anyone got any ideas?

thanks

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jellyrolly · 28/01/2011 21:27

How about sitting down together as a family and trying to decide some new rules? She sounds like a bright girl, maybe this would appeal to her? It sounds like you need to try and make some decisions together as she is playing you off each other.

You're not rubbish, you must be exhausted though.

NatzCNL · 28/01/2011 21:28

Im so sorry to hear you are having such an awful time with your daughter. I cant offer any advice Im affraid. My 4yr old DD also refuses to sleep in her own bed, we have just reintroduced the star chart, and so far we have had 2 nights of having to go into her room to comfort her (at least 4 times a night) and we are exhausted.

All I can say is that every child is unique, even if she was your 8th child, when a child is difficult it makes no difference. I just hope you are able to get some help either from on here, or maybe your Health Visitor?

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