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Do you have a child who's a bit too quick to retaliate in the playground?

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coffeecupmum · 27/01/2011 10:58

I have the most gorgeous, loving 5 year old son. He has settled into school well and seems happy there. From time to time at school and at preschool there have been incidents where he has been a bit too quick to respond to another child who saying something nasty or winding him up. Unfortunately the teacher only sees my child respond and he is the one who gets into trouble. For example, yesterday at school, he fell out with a friend and ended up yanking the hood on his friends coat to pull him over because he was cross. Not appropriate I know but no one seems to question what went on before it happened - was DS provoked? We are trying to teach him to walk away from these situations but I fear a couple of the child who know DD1 is an easy target wind him up just to see the reaction. Does anyone have any tips a)to help DD1 handle himself better and learn when to stop and walk away b)tips for communicating with the teacher. I am a teacher myself but still manage to feel intimidated when I have to speak to the school. This does not happen all the time, probably twice this school year (that we know of) - it can also happen at child's parties and indoor play areas which seem to be another environment where things can get out of hand.

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Blatherskite · 27/01/2011 21:25

My Son is doing something similar but is a little younger at not quite 4. Luckily, his preschool are fab and have so far known that he's been provoked and have dealt with both children appropriately.

I'd love some advice on how to back them up though so will be watching this thread for some ideas.

Lindax · 27/01/2011 22:04

I'm a bit Judge Judy on this one with ds, he knows that you "never ever put your hands on anyone in anger ever" - no matter what they say to you - it is totally unacceptable and I won't care what the other child did if he initiates anything physical and I would back the teacher 100% (unless it is prolonged bullying which it doesnt sound like).

to balance this I make sure I spend time to listen to any problems and suggest appropriate actions/reactions and hope with experience and time he will learn how to deal with them.

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