Demanding 11 month old. Any tips?

[joy56]

Hi there. My little girl is proving to be extremely high maintenance at the moment. She is literally whinge-crying, shouting/screaming on and off all day unless I sit down and hold her in a standing position constantly. I sense she's frustrated (wants to walk) and its mixed with a dose of separation anxiety, but because i have twins, it really is impossible to give her all of my attention all the time. I'm getting so frustrated with her. I've tried chastising her, ignoring her, congratulating my little boy for being good and playing nicely, but none seem to be doing the trick.
Is this another phase that I have to wait for her to outgrow? or are there any suggestions for how I might deal with it? Thanks so much
Jo x

Hi Jo
How difficult this must be for you - especially with having twins! There are some toys that allow baby to stand in them with a play tray or cruise around them now - we had one for our ds when he was a bit younger than yours are now and he really enjoyed it - we had ours from ELC and it was like a jungle thing but there are lots of other designs and some will support them in a standing position more than others. Good luck! xx

thanks kat we have he jumperoo which used to keep her happy for a good half an hour but that's becoming increasingly redundant now. i will bring the walker up ito our living room (even tho space is quite tight) and see how that fares) x

Yes, it's a phase - she's working on the development spurt at around 46 weeks and it'll improve once she hits it.

You could read The Wonder Weeks which tells you all about it. (The authors describe babies as 'clingy, cranky and crying' in the run up to spurts.)

DS did this. You just have to run with it - she can't help it: her brain & body are in overdrive.

Different children are affected differently which is why your DS isn't doing the same. It can affect mood, behaviour, sleep and eating.

hiya, i have twin boys just turned 18 months. sorry i can't really offer any advice really but just wanted to say i found 11 to 13 months with mine really hard work. They are soooo much easier now so there is light at the end of the tunnel! Seperation anxiety was a big thing with one of mine inparticular, he just wanted me all the time at that age, he's now much better. Personally i dont think i would try ingnoring or chastising her, i would just go all out to make her happy however tough it might be and just keep reminding yourself that its just a phase, it will pass x x x