Help! My 7yr ds still soiling

[Cazza046]

I am at the end of my tether, and the situation doesnt seem to be improving.
My ds is still soiling his pants and it also happens at school. It is very embarrassing when the teacher approaches me about it and I feel like a bad mother. we have tried seeing doctors and he has been put on medication. However, we just get told that it is a common problem and ds will grow out of it. I have put him back on the medication, but as yet have seen no improvement. I just dont know what else to try. I ask him if there is anything bothering him, but he says no. He seems generally happy and apart from the soiling , he is doing well at school. I have considered taking him to a phsycologist, but it seems too extreme. Maybe he will grow out of it. I just wish I knew what to do to help him. I feel like I'm letting him down. Please help. Sad

hi my little girl was doing this so i took her to my doctor and found out she had a very bad water infection and had to go into hospitil but after just 3 days in there and 15 more days at home that was it all gone no more soiling. and my child is 6yrs. also my sister who is now 11yrs old went thought the same thing as you are saying here and her doctor told my mum that she needed more iron in her dite so mum got on the shlef iron tab and at that time she was 7yrs going on 8yrs but after taking the tab for about 14 days it start to slow down and after about 30 more days it was all gone so i hope this may help in some way x

Hi - my ds was still doing that at age 7, so yes, it is a common problem. I reached boiling point when he wee-d himself at the garden centre, despite doing all the usual "do you need to go to the toilet?" reminders before we left home. I took him to the doctor, and we got a referral to a specialist in this kind of problem. But that was all we needed - my ds processed all the attention and the problem just fell away.

However. The origins of the problem were something else. I know you say your ds is generally happy, but...... We moved house when ds was six, and he was bored witless at his new school. That was when the soiling began, along with fingernail biting and tummy aches. He's now in a new school which is challenging him, and he's doing much better. Is there anything else that you can think of that might be quietly bothering your ds, maybe something that happened that you didn't pick up on before? A change at school - a new teacher, friends, etc? Or something at home?

You feel so helpless, and get so fed up washing out poohy pants. Vanish only does half the job........