11 month old wont feed himself

[timepasses]

I have read on various websites that my ds should be, by now, feeding himself. He loves toast and happily eats it if I put it in his mouth but wont pick it up himself. I have tried leaving food in front of him when he is hungry but he just plays with it. I have tried putting finger food in his hand but he just drops it.

Is he just lazy as he wont hold his beaker either?

I am trying not to worry, he eats well but has no interest in feeding himself.

I have also read that he should be attempting to say dada/mama but he isn't although he is babbling alot.

I would appreciate any advice.

Don't worry about it, he'll do all of this when he's ready. Mine 14 mo DD goes through stages of only feeding herself then only eating things I spoon into her mouth.

Thanks for reply. I was discussing my worries with a frined yesterday and she advised me to take him to Docs as he should be saying dada/mama by now.

I am now more worried than ever.

Any advice would be welcomed.

Tell your friend to wind her neck in and butt out. He's just a baby and babies haven't read the development charts.

If he were 2 and not saying mama and dada or feeding himself, I'd be worried. But 11 months???

Tee2072 thank you. I feel a bit better now. i will keep on doing what i am doing and trying to get him to eat etc and see how we go.

timepasses Stop reading about what he 'should' be doing and don't listen to your friend

He's not lazy, he's learning and developing fine motor skills still

Give him time and some space. Put the food and beaker in front of him and you sit alongside him and eat and drink something too - he will watch and learn. Pretend you are having lunch with a friend and just chat away to him.

Lower your expectations and ignore what everyone expects your ds to be able to do.

He'll get there

Iliketomoveitmoveit - Thank you.

I have had a good talk to myself this morning, I am mad obviously, I will just relax and let things happen in their own time.

I appreciate the replies.